From the author: If a man wants to hit someone, give him a shovel and ask him to dig up the garden. Have you noticed how often a woman, as if on purpose, purposefully irritates and angers a man? And he just masterfully “muddies” and “disturbs” the “water” (emotions) in him, lifts all the spiritual “garbage” “from the bottom” and evokes negative feelings in him? I think that a woman, in this way, unconsciously “awakens the beast” in her husband - she angers, irritates, “climbs”, speaks “the truth”, “nags”, expresses contempt, anger and the whole range of doubts in him - so that he feels a surge of anger, and he (anger), in turn, stimulated MASCULINITY in him. Because a man should - by nature - have a lot of aggression (as an equivalent of energy). Preferably, healthy, aimed at the development of territories, conquest (exactly so, without quotes), creative and business activity. Previously, in the old days, men either plowed the land, or served in the army for 25 years, or managed an estate, or were in the service of the state, or... In short, there was enough to do, and everyone was busy, plus 8 -10 or more children were raised... Periodically, the country was shaken by wars, reforms, Stalinist camps, perestroikas... The Second World War undermined both the healthy instinct of self-preservation and the institution of family. When there are few men, polygamy begins, maternal feelings for her husband and many single mothers. In general, Russians have a difficult time with the instinct of self-preservation. The Great October Revolution alone is worth something! What a bloody experiment, followed by a fratricidal civil war... The French Revolution, as well as the revolution of 1905, never taught us anything. We don’t learn from our own or others’ mistakes... Well, what am I talking about? About the family. Most modern men do not have a plot of land where they can use their muscles for the benefit of the family business, and not just for the sake of beauty and health, nor have their own shop or candle factory, nor a steamboat, nor five children to manage. For the most part, now, a man has himself, a wife and one child. Or just himself. Because women have learned and are not afraid to survive on their own. And the revolution, having undermined religiosity and legalized abortion and “open” relationships, “helped” women “play” at self-sufficiency and form a kind of mocking attitude towards men. Like, yes, yes, yes, tell me. I’m smart myself. I know that it’s necessary. If you don’t like it, leave. No, yes. Not fun. I am for the institution of marriage. Scientists say it is already 5 thousand years old. I think he will survive. But he is modernizing. And wives “harass” inert and unmanly husbands, “raising a fuss” from within, artificially. Since external incentives are not enough. But is this effective? Usually it ends with either a scandal, or betrayal, or drunkenness, or a fight. And how should it be? Project. Any. From long travel to repairing or building a house. I know one wise woman. Her once high-ranking husband lost his job and could not get a similar position. Weeks of inactivity turned into months. Apathy and hopelessness grew. What should the wife do? The children are adults and live separately. It’s just that everyday life and grandchildren did not hide the inner emptiness of a man who was accustomed to a different scope of RESPONSIBILITY. They began to build a house. He spat, didn’t want to, lost his temper... then he got involved. Mastered new information * (on construction), again tasted power (commanding workers), skills the manager was very useful. Where is his depression, oh? Not a trace remains. Now there are plans for extensions and landscaping. By the way, the example of the parents is contagious. Both good and bad. The children also gradually built a house. Like this. So maybe it’s better not to saw your husband, but to give the saw to him with a request to cut firewood?.. My website: https://www.sperro.ruChannel: https:/ /www.youtube.com/channel/UC9MgxM6E3z3WGuDfLVAwXrw https://www.b17.ru/video/8222/ - video supplement to the article.