Adolescence is considered one of the most difficult periods of growing up, both for parents and for teenagers themselves. In these difficult times, it becomes difficult for everyone: parents, teachers, those around them and the teenagers themselves. Why does this happen? This period is complicated not only by emotional experiences, but also by the fact that a person also experiences physiological changes. The body changes, hormones rage, which lead to jumps in the emotional background. And often we forget what it’s like, what such sometimes drastic changes are like, not only in mood, but also in the body. Personally, this sometimes frightened me, made me feel embarrassed and hide myself. Body growth does not occur evenly, bones grow faster, muscles and nerve connections do not always keep up with them. Because of this, a person becomes completely uncollected and emotionally unstable. Teenagers, in reality at this point in their lives, become clumsy, problems begin in their studies, and not because something suddenly became wrong with them, but because with the physiological processes in their body. They greatly influence the entire life of a teenager during this period, and that’s why he can become unstable. This is where the teenager reaches a new level, his left and right hemispheres begin to work together, which leads to an understanding of himself, and the search for “what else am I?” And this is where the main task of this age appears - KNOWING YOURSELF. How can you do this? Through communication. through communication with others like oneself, i.e. peers, through communication with the outside world and of course adults. But more often, self-knowledge occurs about another teenager. There is a search for “people like me”, teenagers begin to cluster and gather in their “flocks”. When I was a teenager we had different subcultural flocks, there was an EMO girl in my class. The Internet was just gaining popularity and accessibility, not everyone had free access to it, so I had to look for friends “by reason” in person. Now in this regard everything is much simpler. There are a lot of forums, websites, YouTube channels where you can find like-minded people and feel like “part of the ship, part of the team.” And as you understand, studying is not the most important area of ​​life. Normally, a teenager generally begins to think, “Is everything really as my parents told me?” All rules, beliefs, and knowledge begin to be questioned. And this is what often becomes very painful for parents, as their sweet child becomes an unbeliever in nothing. He begins to test the limits of what is permitted again, and may become uncontrollable, and sometimes cruel and aggressive. It becomes more difficult to negotiate, this creature begins to seek and defend its territory, “sharing rights”, modern teenagers lovingly operate with such concepts as “personal space”, “personal boundaries”. Why is this period even needed? Why do older people defend their positions and opinions so much? Because this is the time for this, and it prepares a person just for adulthood. In this adult life, it is very important to be able to defend myself, to understand who I am, what interests me in this world and what I generally want to do. And what’s also important to me is what kind of problems I can solve, what kind of person I want to be, and a lot more about me. What mistakes can parents make at this stage? The child grows and develops, but the parent also develops with him. For example, at this stage parents should learn new skills. The first skill is the skill of a process organizer. It's all about the rules and regulations. Keeping track of coming home on time, going to classes and to tutors, completing homework - all this is difficult for a teenager to regulate on his own, because his brain is not sufficiently formed, and not because he is lazy. The second skill is to be a friend to your own child. What does it mean? Right now, parents can talk to their teenager as an adult. Discuss films/series, express opinions about any situations, different views on this sometimes difficult life, share experiences and how.