Why do we need to create problems and difficulties for ourselves? Are you saying that you don’t create your own problems? That these are circumstances, accidents, evil people around...- Yeahhh...How said the wolf from the famous cartoon. Creating problems is very beneficial for us. For what? In order to heroically overcome them! In order to achieve, achieve, then to respect yourself, to tell yourself: - I did it, I can, I am like this cool (cool)! In order for others to respect, admire and be proud. Why? Because that’s what they taught. They taught you to fight, fight, prove, achieve and admire, be proud of your achievements. From childhood they taught that there is no other way to earn approval, praise, admiration. And all this was regarded by the child as a manifestation of love. And we decided that this was the only way to earn love. From childhood we were taught that everything comes with great difficulty. And we decided that all this was true. Because our parents could not deceive .Now we create problems for ourselves in order to overcome them and be proud of ourselves. In this way we prove to our parents, who may be long gone, that they can be proud of us, that we deserve their love. Because we do not know how to live calmly, with love for yourself, to live easily and joyfully. We were not taught this. We have to learn this ourselves. And when we learn to rejoice unconditionally, to love ourselves, without proving to anyone that you are worthy (worthy) of love, then the need for problems disappears. Then tasks appear. Problems that are interesting to solve. This reminds an exciting game in which we explore solutions; if some are not suitable, we find other options. We explore ourselves in this game, what qualities and abilities help us, what skills are missing for an effective solution. And we, during this game , right in the process of solving problems, we develop some skills and abilities, reveal new facets of ourselves, get to know ourselves from a new side. And we are surprised: - Wow, I can do this too... And life becomes interesting and exciting. Do you have problems or tasks in your life? Are you able to rejoice and play at exploring yourself and life? If not, then come, we will study together. Write requests for consultation in the comments or in private messages. Start the New Year with joy and play. (c) Galina Suslina