Do you have a loved one, spouse, partner? Do you have accounts on social networks? At least in one? If so, then you should read this article further. Social networks have entered our lives so simply and naturally that now it is difficult to remember how it all began. And it’s also hard to imagine how we lived without them. A whole generation of those who are now between 20 and 30 years old grew up in them. On social networks they make friends, make acquaintances, make dates, fall in love, propose, post photos of weddings, newborn children, kitchens, bedrooms, lunches, breakfasts and the contents of wardrobes. In other words, they reflect their daily life. As a person who knew the times when all this could only be done offline, only in person, I actually really like the new reality. In fact, it’s good and healthy, communicating easily, without embarrassment. Enter into a variety of contacts with users of social networks, share your impressions, photos, thoughts. Virtual space makes it possible to very quickly report on what is happening to us and find out how friends and acquaintances are doing. Look at the faces of those you can’t see soon in reality. You can learn a lot, understand, get support, advice. But, just as all technological and progressive achievements have a positive side, there is also a downside that creates new problems for us. Lately, I often hear from my clients about such difficulties. These are conflicts, claims partners or spouses related to the part of life that takes place on social networks. I think this problem is of great importance in a couple’s relationship. Typical client complaints: “My husband never puts my photos on his Instagram page *. He doesn’t put family photos there . On my page there are photographs of my children and husband. I don’t understand why we aren’t on his page?” “My wife likes to post photos of herself online with beautiful hair and makeup. Who is she doing this for? What does this mean?” “My husband did not indicate anything in the marital status column on Facebook.” “Some men like my wife. I think she communicates with them. Otherwise, why are they doing this?” There are quite a lot of experiences and complaints of this kind. What are they all about? They are about how a couple presents themselves to the world, to people. Presenting their couple to other people, to society is a very clear indicator of a relationship. And in the era of social networks this side of the couple’s life appears on the surface. How does the couple present themselves to others, tell us and them something about themselves? Does the couple have an understanding and idea that connects the two with the word “WE”? And what is each of ours in our “WE”? For example, there are couples who even have a common page. That’s what it’s called: “Petrovs. Anya and Sasha” In this case, it is worth thinking about the too close merging of the spouses. Maybe about the difficulty of understanding who I am without him or without her? Maybe about the desire not to show others that there are problems, but to show an ideal picture. , for example, the wife’s page is very rich, filled with her beautiful photos. And the husband’s page is simple and uninformative. The question arises, what can this mean? What does the woman express in this way? The examples can be continued endlessly. The new social reality has revealed more to the spouses (partners). one plane in the relationship. And how the couple’s life on social networks will affect the relationship will depend on the ability to conduct dialogue and negotiate. Also, as in all other aspects of life, one can hardly expect a completely identical view on how to behave on social networks. how to behave on the Internet. What seems acceptable to one may look offensive to another. The husband considers it innocent pampering to post a photo of his wife in a swimsuit. And the wife may perceive this as a reproach to her imperfect forms. Perhaps the husband does not post photographs of the children because he wants to maintain the privacy and intimacy of his family. The wife thinks that in this way he means his freedom from his family. The degree of publicity varies from person to person. Everything we reveal to the world on social networks.