So, in my previous articles I talked about how certain feelings have a destructive effect on us. We tend to evoke these feelings in ourselves again and again, we get stuck in them and, thanks to them, we plunge ourselves into various kinds of suffering. Suffering, in turn, depletes us, takes away our strength and time, destroys our faith in ourselves, our own strength and ability to cope with a given situation. But our suffering is just a habit we have mistakenly developed, the habit of suffering. We developed it and consolidated it within ourselves. And if so, then we can get rid of this harmful habit and develop a new habit that is useful for you and me - living with a feeling of joy. However, in order to get rid of one habit and develop another in contrast to it, we will have to act consciously and step by step , you will have to spend some time on this, you will have to give up something that you have already become familiar with and consider quite natural for yourself. Oddly enough, self-love can help you and I learn to live with joy. For loving yourself means taking care of yourself, not harming yourself and your body. After all, all the harmful feelings and emotions that doom us to suffering of a different nature actually harm us very much: the mask of a sufferer freezes on the face, the shoulders are drooped, the gaze is dull - this is on the outside, but inside is a breeding ground for psychosomatics! So, let's go back to the lost joy, let's develop the habit of rejoicing, living calmly and balancedly, as opposed to the habit of feeling offended, guilty, defenseless, abandoned, dissatisfied, etc. etc. The first thing to do in order to develop any new positive habit is to consider all your experiences from the standpoint of whether it is beneficial for you or harmful, whether it is reasonable for you or not. These expressions will indicate the actions you take towards yourself, without at all evaluating you as a person. They will help you control your emotions and feelings without plunging you into the abyss of suffering. For example, you felt that someone had offended you, you felt like the offense was standing on the threshold and asking to settle in your heart for a while. You may fall into a state of resentment, but is it wise? Will this state be beneficial for you? No, this state will not be useful for you, it will bleed you and deprive you of power, make life gray and dull. What then is useful? Remain in a normal state, remain in good spirits. What's reasonable? In this situation, it is reasonable for you to try to find out whether they really wanted to offend you, hurt you, or whether the person did it unintentionally, by accident, simply because he could not be sensitive enough to you today due to the fact that he himself was immersed in the experience of his problems . It is wise to preserve relationships, not destroy them. After all, resentment wears away our trust in our neighbors from the inside, like rust wears away iron. Resentment will gradually destroy even the closest friendships. So is it reasonable and healthy for us to be offended? Resentment causes us pain, therefore, by being offended, we harm ourselves, and if we do it ourselves, then we ourselves can stop it, remembering that we love ourselves, want to take care of ourselves and our body. Each of us makes our own choice it is useful or not useful, reasonable or not reasonable to experience certain feelings. Each of us has the right to freedom of choice. When choosing, each of us acts as his own conscience or egoism tells him, relative to this or that moment in life. Don't be afraid to make mistakes, because they will serve to accumulate experience. However, it is worth remembering that our actions are neither bad nor good, neither right nor wrong. They are either intelligent or unreasonable. And so, before making any decision, you should ask yourself the following questions: 1. Is this reasonable?2. Does it help me meet my basic needs?3. Could it harm me or someone else?4. What's the price,