Hello! As you understand from the title, we will talk about not giving a damn. What it is? And what do they eat it with? And why is he funny? First of all, I would like to emphasize that indifference is a certain feeling of a person that allows him to more easily treat some (seemingly important) moments with a bit of neglect, (in extreme cases, irresponsibility) and relaxation. The funny thing about it is that with too much and too little, the consequences are approximately the same. Let's look at examples: Healthy indifference is a manifestation, I would say, necessary for every person - you shouldn’t take everything too responsibly, sometimes you need to be able to tell yourself: this will do , so what? it will be better, etc. In general, do not overload yourself with worrying about someone or something (work, children, cleaning, cooking, relaxation). Here's an example: Daughter leaves for school - mom: Have you packed your backpack? Did you wear a hat? Call when you get there! Did you tie your scarf well? (seems normal?). But then more: my mother worries about how she got there, what she got to school, how she got back, what she ate, whether they were offending her, and her thoughts raced, and calls, and nerves. And the result: the mother is all tense and the daughter too (because of her mother’s calls), and at work everything is awry because of the constant thoughts about what and how! And dad (who doesn’t give a damn) said: I put this on, I took this - oh, okay! Well, here's to a nice day! AND THAT'S ALL! No headache, no fuss, no worries! I once wrote about the differences in the psychology of men and women: men in fact (there is a problem, I solve it), women in fiction (what if, what if?). Several of my patients (Only an option about men - I can’t get work out of my head ) talked about her husband - He’s like this and that, he doesn’t give a damn about anything. And after meeting their husbands, it turned out that this seemed to be normal behavior (well, in any case, I didn’t give a damn). After working through it, we come to: teach me not to give a damn, I don’t have enough of it! I think many psychologists have encountered this, of course, it can be called: a healthy attitude towards life or the right approach to solving problems, well blah, blah, blah - NO! This is healthy indifference! The dishes haven’t been washed, but we have such a good time chatting together and watching a movie! - I don’t care about the dishes (we’ll wash them tomorrow). Oh, I didn’t prepare anything - I don’t care! Sit, relax, sausages and dumplings will help us! And so on, on, on, you can write a million examples yourself! But if I start doing this through force, gritting my teeth (it doesn’t concern really important things), then I spoil not only my mood, but also my husband (wife), as a result, I become irritable and take it out on the child, I feel flawed (after all, he’s a bastard, sits on the sofa), then I blame myself for breakdowns, etc. And if I didn’t care, you see, the man would wash it himself, clean it up (Darling, will you wash it tomorrow, clean it up, pet it, help?), or she herself without irritation (but yesterday they sat or lay down well). This is all about healthy, but there is and indifference is dangerous: this is more common in men. Okay, not today, but tomorrow (work, action, requests, etc.), not tomorrow, but the day after tomorrow, and ad infinitum. And then: why are you so bored, I just forgot (I didn’t forget, I didn’t remember), oh, it somehow flew out of my head (it didn’t fly out, it didn’t linger). This becomes scary for the partner (boss), he, she cannot convey anything to the indifference, ask him for something (it’s easier to do it yourself), and over time the “insanity” gets stronger, such a person cannot be relied on for anything, and cannot be entrusted with anything . Consequence: I don’t understand why I was fired? Why does the wife leave? Why? Yes, because this man has inflated his indifference to the point of: I don’t care about everyone, I don’t care about everything, and I don’t care about you, dear (dear), there is only me, beloved, beloved! This indifference and selfishness multiplied, and it turned out - what to call it? Think for yourself! So, indifference is important and harmful at the same time, where is the line? I, as a psychoanalyst, find and show this line to the client several sessions, because clearly everyone has their own: but it can be determined without outside help. If you notice that often.