We all have a common problem, incompleteness. Didn’t answer, didn’t have time, didn’t finish, didn’t think through, didn’t follow through, didn’t complete... How many plans, promises, dreams frozen in the air, they seem to petrify over time and envelop us with some kind of weight, turning into a spacesuit , and then this spacesuit becomes warm, cozy and so comfortable that you don’t want to leave it at all. As for unfinished relationships, this is a huge and serious topic that I will cover separately. This article is about unfinished business. What do we usually promise ourselves? “I will play sports!” “I’ll lose weight!” “I will eat right!” “I’ll learn English!” “I’ll be interested in spending my free time!” “I’ll make money!” “I’ll find a good job!” “I’ll call my parents!” “I’m going on a trip!” "I'll make my dream come true!" Painfully familiar. What happens next? Somehow I can’t get around to it, there’s little time, traffic jams and fatigue get in the way..., tomorrow, tomorrow, tomorrow. I had several clients without higher education. In the process of work, they often emphasized this; it was clear that this was an unfinished business that still did not give peace, confidence and a feeling of happiness. What prevented you from getting an education? There was a different time, different values ​​and interests, we worked, and in general, there was no opportunity, and now it’s too late to study. And they suffered, were tormented by doubts, but did not go to study. Of course, initiative and motivation are lost, the “suit” has become so warm and familiar that it’s scary without it... There are certain stages of our life that are important to complete. Finish school, get an education, create relationships, decide on what you love, learn a language, dance and much more. And even if you are 60 and you haven’t received higher education as you wanted, and it doesn’t give you peace, finish it, go study! And if you are 70 and you dreamed of dancing. Dance! And if you promised something to someone, but didn’t do it. I promised to help my mother at the dacha, help me! Complete. So, if the above has affected you, then there are 4 steps that will help you reach completion.1. Awareness of your needs. Awareness of incompleteness. Ask yourself questions: “Why do I keep coming back to this question?” (Your burning question). “What do I really want?” “What do I need to be happy now?” What do I want other than to look at social networks, eat, sleep, watch TV, or admit to myself that in fact, everything suits me. If you are satisfied, then there is no point in going further. We stop here and take everything as it comes. If I want something else, I can’t be happy without it, let’s move on.2. I finally decided that I want to learn English, for example. But I feel like something is holding me. Ask yourself the question: “What is stopping you from achieving your goal?” If you feel tempted to stay home on the couch, stay. But remain aware. Feel yourself. Observe yourself, answer the questions: Am I really ready to do this now? Or do I still have enough time and can afford to hesitate? What's stopping me? Maybe I'm afraid of something? And what? To be imperfect, awkward, weak, funny? Admit it to yourself. Yes, I'm afraid of being weak. So tell everyone around: “I’m afraid of being a weak loser.” Therefore, I will go and do it anyway. I will conclude.3. Imagine the completion situation in detail. Imagine how you will learn English, for example. What important steps will need to be taken?4. Assess the risks, what can stop you? You already realize that this is not so easy, it requires effort and time. Evaluate the possibilities again, are you sure that this time you will bring this matter to completion? Are you sure that nothing will stop you this time? That's right, not sure. And this means you are in reality. And now, in fact, you are ready. Get started. BE HAPPY!!! Irina Toktarova