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Envy tells us that another has something that we ourselves would like to have. For this purpose, of course, there is another emotion - desire. But when we do not pay attention to our desires directly, envy appears. The feeling of envy has its own dynamics of development: the desire to possess something due to weak self-confidence turns into fear that the desire will not be fulfilled. This results in anger at oneself or at the one who is envied. In addition, it makes us sad and sorry for ourselves because we are so unhappy. Thus, envy consists of the emotions of desire, fear, anger and sadness. If a person believes that envy is bad, he suppresses this feeling. Because of this, firstly, he completely loses his connection with desire, and secondly, he may fall into an anxious, aggressive or depressive disorder. If a person still allows himself to feel envy, he can experience it in one of two ways. Thus, envy is divided into white and black. White envy can be described by the thesis: “I want it to be the same for me.” White envy shows us how we would like it ourselves. And also, by the example of another person, it makes it clear that this desire can be fulfilled. This inspires and motivates us to change ourselves in order to get something we didn’t have before. When we succeed, we feel well-deserved pleasure and increase our self-esteem. Thus, we assert ourselves by changing ourselves. To take advantage of this emotion, you need to answer the following questions: Who do I envy? What does he have that I don’t have (what is my desire)? What is my problem? must decide? How can I realize my desire? What first step can I take now? Black envy can be described by the thesis: “I don’t want him to have this.” Black envy is the devaluation of another person’s achievements. Thanks to this, a devaluation of one’s own desire occurs - “I didn’t want anything like that, no no...”. This allows you to justify your inaction. This happens due to lack of confidence in your abilities and / or shame for your desires. This, in turn, violates the sense of responsibility for one’s life - a person begins to feel that it is not he himself, but others who should be responsible for his success. Therefore, he becomes touchy with others when they do not live up to his imaginary (having no objective basis) expectations. To get out of black envy, you need to strengthen your self-esteem and faith in your success, as well as form a correct understanding of where whose zone is responsibility. Then we will be able to turn black envy into white and fulfill our desires.