From the author: How much responsibility do we, specialists in the “auxiliary” profession, have... I am in a very indignant state. I recently attended a seminar for parents, which was conducted by a psychologist who is quite popular in our city ( man). One of the points that he actively introduces into the parent masses is that it is necessary for the child to always experience only positive emotions, to prohibit “bad” experiences. I quote his words: “I forbid my son to be sad. He can do this only with my permission. Or only with a cheerful face..."And after all, parents, listening to this specialist (NOT a child psychologist who positions himself as a family, business psychologist) take this as a rule, which they actively implement in their family. In fact, we are all living people, and with We experience different events, which, accordingly, cause different experiences. If we are hurt, scared, sad, we cry, feel sad, etc. And that’s normal. I would say, moreover, this is a natural reaction of our body to certain experiences. It turns out that such a message to a child, “You’re like that (sad, crying) is not suitable for me. “We form a kind of split personality in the child, one part of which the parents do not accept. The child learns to keep everything to himself, broadcasting only the “positive”, positively colored part of himself to the world. I will not colorfully describe all the possible consequences of this. Starting from psychosomatic reactions of the body to emotional insensitivity, “frozenness”, inability to share his experiences with a person and share with his own, and much, much more... One of the questions that I ask at the first meeting to both adults and children is as follows: “ Is there a person in your life with whom you can cry when you feel bad, share your experiences, share the pain that is in you; who will listen to you, support you, help you”? And it’s very cool to have such a person in our lives.…