Hostages of relationships. Some people cannot be honest with themselves. They are afraid to RECOGNIZE their REAL FEELINGS. Because by admitting something, you will need to DO AN ACTION and FACE UNPLEASANT FEELINGS or ADMIT DEFEAT and HUMILIATE. If I feel that I don’t love my “soul mate”, that I’m bored with this person, or maybe he treats is disrespectful towards me, offends me, then I NEED TO BREAK UP with this person. And then I FACE A FEELING OF GUILT (it’s scary to offend, hurt a person), I FACE a feeling of LONELINESS (everyone in their life has experienced insanely painful nights and days after breaking up with the person you were attached to). Someone may FACE SHAME (that they are already 30, and walk alone in the evenings). Or with the FEAR that I WILL NEVER MEET SUCH A GOOD PERSON AGAIN or some other fear. And again you will have to arrange your life: look for your interests in life, look for a life partner - try - break up and try again... And some people are so scared that they prefer to CLOSE EYES TO THEIR REAL FEELINGS. They will complain to friends or girlfriends that “he is this and that,” create scandals and argue that “if only he/she, then I would love him/her,” some will squeeze love out of themselves. And it is these people, turning a blind eye to THEIR REAL FEELINGS (to what is felt by itself, and not to reasoning like he’s so good...), who become hostages of unproductive, unhappy relationships.