For many young couples, and subsequently spouses, the joy of living together is overshadowed by such a quality of one or even both partners as jealousy. On the one hand, we are pleased when our girlfriend or our man is jealous of us. It is generally accepted that jealousy is a criterion that a person loves us, appreciates us, and does not want to lose us. But is this really so? What is really behind jealousy? And is it really connected with love? We all know how opposite-sex couples come together in nature. The male seeks the female’s favor, while in every possible way driving away all other contenders from her and, if necessary, enters into battle with them for the right to possess her. If the female showed favor to another male, he is also attacked. Just a hundred years ago, parents gave their daughters in marriage without the right to return to the parental family in the future. The woman became part of her husband's family, took his surname and had no property rights to the household until she became a widow. The woman thus became the property of her husband and had no right to communicate with other men. The opponent was simply killed in order to “defend their honor,” but in fact, to defend their property. Today, a manifestation of jealousy is still the same desire of a man or woman to protect their territorial borders and protect their property from the encroachment of rivals. Therefore, we can say quite firmly that jealousy and love are not connected with each other in any way. In order to protect himself and his space, a jealous person begins to limit the freedom of the other in every possible way, prohibiting him from meeting girlfriends and friends, beautiful or too sexy, in his opinion , dress, communicate with people of the opposite sex. In order to keep the behavior of the property under control, the jealous person arranges interrogations, looks through phones, pages on social networks, installs listening devices and video cameras. This is not life, this is a nightmare. But it is precisely the life of both, still close people, that becomes unbearable. What kind of person is characterized by manifestations of jealousy? First of all, this is a person who is not sure that he is good enough to be loved. He is characterized by dependent behavior, since he is still psychologically dependent on his mother. This is an infantile, immature personality with a progressive fear of losing his property. In society, unfortunately, this type of behavior is supported and justified. This position of a “real man,” supported by arguments about the polygamy of men, allows them to relieve themselves of responsibility for parallel relationships with other women and puts a taboo on the right of their girlfriend or wife to decide with whom, when and for how long she will communicate. Therefore, it is normal to prohibit a woman from having any relationship with other men. Therefore, jealousy too. But what should those who are already so tormented by their jealousy do that they no longer have energy to waste on worries, prohibitions, control and endless conflicts? To understand what is happening, it is best to contact an experienced specialist: a psychologist or psychotherapist. (Here we do not take into account pathological jealousy, i.e. paranoid states with which psychiatrists work). There are a lot of modern methods of working with feelings that will help throw out accumulated negative energy. In Cherepovets, this is done well by experienced psychologists at the Stalker Psychological Center, who have many years of experience in working both with their own feelings and in providing assistance in defusing the feelings of clients. Co-authored with Yulia Vasyukova