From the author: I again have questions about relationships in personal consultations. Today I write under the impression and after reflecting on a recent consultation. I hope that this information will help someone in difficult relationships with themselves and with men. Millions, billions of lines have been written on the topic of relationships between women and men. Love throughout the world is the only currency that is not subject to depreciation. Love, which is the basis for everything else and material in the world, is also the stumbling block for everyone living on this Earth. Even the most stellar and successful people have had difficult experiences in relationships with loved ones and close people. I again have questions about relationships in personal consultations. Today I write under the impression and after reflecting on a recent consultation. I hope that this information will help someone in difficult relationships with themselves and with men. There are different ways to diagnose a person’s level of self-esteem. Personally, in my consulting practice I apply the so-called law of reflection. What is it about? To determine at what qualitative level of development of self-love, self-respect and self-acceptance a woman is, I ask her questions regarding her relationship with her husband (beloved, men). How her man treats a woman depends 100 percent on how the woman herself treats herself. You may disagree with me and say: “What about alcoholic husbands and rapist husbands who beat their wives? What, women are so feel bad about yourself?" “Yes,” I will answer, “a woman feels so bad about herself that she causes a response to hit and humiliate her.” It is necessary to clarify that low self-esteem (bad attitude towards oneself) is a person’s inability to Love, accept, forgive. I use this principle of formulation and the concept of self-esteem in my professional work. If a woman does not move away from a man who humiliates her feminine principle, then it, this very feminine principle, is in such a deplorable state that even Vaska the drunkard “spits” with pleasure " on him. Look at the women you know who are or have been in a relationship with a man (husband, lover, lover). Upon closer examination, you can see a manifestation of the law of reflection, which says: “What is in me is outside.” You will see that if your friend values ​​herself highly enough, then her husband treats her with respect, appreciates, takes care of her, takes care of her (what a coincidence!). Another friend “doesn’t give a damn” about herself and her needs, fulfills The main commandment of feminists is “I am myself.” And the man echoes her: “Yes, you, please, handle it yourself, and relieve me of care, attention and love for you! I have no time for you, here football is going on, quarter finals”... This rule of reflection works in your life too . “Oh, it’s true! Indeed, that’s how it is. I looked at myself from the outside and saw that when I treat myself well, then my husband begins to hover around me. When I work to the point of exhaustion, I stop taking care of myself, so then he forgets about me and my needs!”, you note with surprise. I conditionally divided women according to their level of self-esteem, and, to be more precise, according to their ability to Love and accept, into 3 groups. By the way, I myself sometimes “migrate” from one group to another on days that women of childbearing age know under the code name PMS. Group No. 1 “Women begin... And “He” loses - that’s all! And that’s all! And there’s nothing here no matter what wonderful qualities she possesses (and from birth all girls are Goddesses, let me remind you of this well-known truth), a man for her is the source of her life (!), breath (!) and Love (!! !). Without him, she doesn’t live, doesn’t breathe (and if she breathes, then every other time), doesn’t love her, and I’ve personally met such women in vain, so I speak with complete confidence about this existing type of woman. , no matter what measures are offered to her - both psychotherapy and going to church