Inflated demands on other people. Today I would like to talk about how we sometimes set inflated demands on other people and how this can affect our relationships. This most often happens unconsciously. We create an ideal picture of a person and expect him to live up to this ideal. And no matter what happens, the desire to hold on to this image prevails. For this reason, a feeling of disappointment often arises, and we get upset if suddenly the picture begins to collapse and a person falls out of this image. Each of us has our own criteria and rules by which we determine what kind of relationships we want to build with people. However, sometimes we form too strict rules that do not take into account the individual characteristics of the person and the context of the situation. Or we think for the person and endow him with traits and skills that are unusual for him. Because of this, we can stop communicating with a person simply because he does not correspond to our ideas about him. However, it is worth considering that such situations leave the other person perplexed. It may be completely unclear to him what he did wrong and why he received such a reaction. And I dare to suggest that one way or another, you have been in such a situation at least once. Remember the saying: “I came up with it myself, I was offended by myself.” Sometimes we create situations in which we hurt ourselves based on our assumptions or unrealistic expectations. Why can't we just tell a person directly if their behavior hurts or upsets us? And there is such a female habit: “Let him understand that he did something wrong.” But here’s the problem: until we talk about it, no one will understand anything. Conversation based on openness and honesty can help resolve conflict and improve mutual understanding. Instead of imposing your own rules and expectations, you should strive for open and sincere communication where everyone can speak up and express their feelings and thoughts. This will help resolve conflicts and build healthy relationships based on mutual respect and understanding. Have you ever encountered situations where a person did not live up to your expectations? What did you do? Women's psychologist Maria. Sign up for a consultation.