Hello, Dear Readers💛Speaking last time about the connection between our body and psyche, I want to emphasize an important point that may escape attention: the closest connection between our psyche and nervous system, which supports our daily functioning. Today I will touch on how this understanding can be useful. Our body itself helps us cope with stress and difficult feelings. It is, first of all, and not someone or something, our container and assistant. And the nervous system helps our self-regulation in the most direct way. To do this, I cited which of the subsystems contributes to what and is occupied with what in the process of our daily activities. And even if our daily life is very familiar to us, it still remains chaotic and unpredictable. And we are able to strengthen our stability in it. The concept of containing feelings originated in the theory of object relations of psychoanalysis and considers our experience of early childhood in relationships with mother or other significant people or with persons replacing the mother in her absence. Through adult containment of the child’s complex feelings, the child learns interact and deal with your feelings. With a successful relationship between mother and child, the mother’s resistance to the child’s feelings, the child simply expresses his feelings to the mother with a violent outburst, and the mother says, for example: “Oh, you’re angry, my dear. Let’s hug or get angry together.” The child becomes calmer from this, these feelings no longer frighten him, neither now nor next time (in the child’s psyche, when similar feelings arise the next time, an unconscious reference arises to the successful experience that he went through with his mother). So is ours. the body helps us with feelings. Let's go back to early childhood. Due to his young age and lack of life experience, the fact that the child is still really, physically, small, and everyone around him is big (and it may seem to the child that he is the only one small), It’s still difficult to express oneself, a lot of things still need to be mastered, the child is very quickly overwhelmed with violent feelings and is especially susceptible to stress. How many unreacted emotions and reactions accumulate during our growing up?! Even if mothers or adults or favorable conditions help us cope with some part of this. A lot of it comes from the period before we could speak. Then the usual periods of growing up, associated with the appearance of more and more people in our lives and personal responsibility. All this time, we and our body cope as best we can, often without receiving the necessary support. What ultimately happens in adulthood? From early childhood it all accumulates in our bodies. And therefore only we ourselves can become, first of all, helpers for ourselves. And when some kind of imbalance happens in life, we can not only dive deeper, but also look at what’s on the surface? How is my life? arranged? Is my body feeling deficient in something important? Is my life organized by me or to please circumstances and other people’s ideas? Do I feed myself? Do I take care of myself? How do I feel about myself? Do I protect myself or am I waiting for a reason for this? And, as I indicated in the title of this publication, self-care today fully contributes to the healing of our childhood wounds. Only this is usually the most difficult and forbidden thing - to turn inward and begin to focus on your needs and be sensitive to yourself, start listening to yourself. This is the hardest thing - to direct your kind attitude towards yourself. But it is important to understand that the price for this is much greater than it might seem. Thanks to our feasible and interested contribution to our everyday comfort and well-being, we and our nervous system will be surrounded by favorable conditions and are deprived of unnecessary stress, which is already enough. This, in turn, will help us cope with stress and the unpredictability of life. And also provide stability, resource and support to face old wounds within yourself..