"I feel that I am not living a life that is right for myself. Everything annoys me. Recommend what to do, I am not ready to go to therapy, I need recommendations. "What can you do on your own in such cases to improve your condition? We remember that the variability of work with such a state it changes from person to person - after all, each of us is a separate universe with individual characteristics. What general strategies for independent work can be recommended? Awareness and recognition of your condition. 2. Reflection: Spend time thinking about the reasons for your irritation. It is not always possible to realize a deep problem on your own; it may be hidden in the unconscious.1. Introspection: Keep a diary of feelings and emotions in which you note moments of irritation. Try to determine if there are any specific clues. Work with physiological reactions. 1. Breathing exercises: When you feel irritation coming on, try deep diaphragmatic breathing to reduce stress levels.2. Relaxation: use relaxation techniques such as progressive muscle relaxation or meditation to reduce tension. Changing thoughts and attitudes 1. Cognitive analysis: become aware of your thoughts - sometimes we catastrophize events (we were fired from our job, that’s it, I won’t find a job for a long time) or generalize ( Vanya and Petya didn’t find a job and I can’t find one either). Try to think differently (I was fired from a job I don’t like, I’ll try to find a more interesting job; I found a job before and now I’ll definitely find it)2. Practice Gratitude: Focus on the positive aspects of life and practice gratitude to change your inner attitude.Improving Communication Skills1. “I Statements”: Learn and practice using “I statements” to express your feelings in a constructive way without making others defensive. (for example: I am now very upset because my data is not on the vacation report card; or: I am now very angry because I did not have time to have lunch. Hunger makes me feel angry! Do you understand me? "2. Assertive communication (the ability to express your feelings and opinions in a way that is respectful to others) : Develop ways to respond to situations that tend to cause irritation. Enhancing Personal Resilience 1. Make sure you take enough time for yourself and engage in activities that fill you with energy.2. .Physical Activity: Engage in regular physical activity that improves your mood and reduces your stress levels.External Changes1.Change your environment:You may need to change some aspects of your environment or daily routine to reduce your level of irritation.2.Improve your time management. less stressed and more in control. If these strategies don't help and you constantly feel irritated, it may be worth seeking professional help from a psychologist. A professional can help identify the underlying causes of irritability and suggest individual methods for dealing with them. Thank you for the likes and comments! Natalya Shashkova, psychologist, space of empathy. tel record WhatsApp, Telegram 8(950)656-11-55