“Failures do not exist, there is only experience” Yitzhak Pintosevich The school year is still in full swing. And the spring sun invites us all to go for a walk: both children and adults. And the child is eager to go outside, does his homework superficially, anyhow, or even doesn’t want to do anything at all. How to combine business with pleasure and achieve the intended results in your studies? First, ask yourself the question: what helps me do my mandatory work? What would attract my child to study? What kind of help is he expecting? Success and desire to learn are determined by several factors. Interest in learning or... “When you grow up, you will thank you.” You know that by nature a child is very inquisitive. Moreover, curiosity is determined by his interests and orientation: as a rule, these are subjects that are easy to learn, personal factors are of great importance - the teacher is interesting, the girlfriend is strong in this, competitive interest. Pay attention to the child's relationship in the classroom with the teacher and with other students. Isn't this the reason? Periodically remind him what he has achieved, what he has learned and how this is applicable in practice now, and not when he grows up, how proud you are of his achievements. Let the moment of competition be only with yourself: “See how great you are!” Don't compare your child with others! It is important to emphasize what he himself has achieved and be proud of him and rejoice at his successes. Important: lessons are for the child, not the child for the lessons. And if it’s for him, then it’s worth doing them. “Knowledge is cool!” Goal and result. So why does a child study? – For the sake of a specific result: I learned certain things that are applicable in life, coped with the task (became “further, higher, stronger”), improved my academic performance. Select with your child certain subjects (everything will not work right away, 2-3 is better) in which you want to improve the score (one point difference - this should be doable), write down the results for the last quarter (six months, current grades), draw up a specific plan together, how to improve (for example, 3 additional exercises per week) and start working. Upon achievement of the result - encouragement (praise, surprise, small gift, it should be something pleasant) to consolidate. Personal characteristics or “He has such a character”, “Everything like his father (mother).” “He is so restless, inattentive, uncollected, sloppy... just a nightmare!” Try this phrase on yourself. How are you feeling? - Not inspiring. Rather, on the contrary, you cringe and want to hide and not think about it. Start with positivity and faith: “You did it... so now it will work out... You’re responsible... How great you did it here...” As you know, faith moves mountains. Distribute the load, maintain a work-rest schedule. Pay attention to your expression face, tone and expression on your child when you teach lessons, or talk about them, about how things are going at school... For your child, you are an authoritative and beloved person. He will copy your attitude towards homework, textbooks, and the teacher. About punishment. Do not punish your child when you are angry or when your patience has run out. Let the punishment be the consequence of disobedience and the framework that is necessary to live well. Then the child will feel your fairness and that there are rules that must be followed. Instead of reproaches and accusations, express to your child your feelings, expectations, and suggest how the situation can be corrected. It is important to convey the child’s belief that there is always a way out. Systematic process. We remember the saying: “Don’t put off until tomorrow what you can do today.” When? – there are many options: let the child write down in his schedule the time at which he does and what (he will see that he can choose and plan for himself, that he is not a kid who is being pushed around by adults and that is why he fulfills what he promises - we cultivate organization) , look at your schedule when you can sit down and calmly discuss, help, support. And most importantly, how to raise a confident and.