Only a few school days have passed, and many children are already sick. What is happening to children? Why do they so much not want to go to school, and they don’t want to, if they are sick, the body never deceives. From the point of view of psychosomatics: “I can’t stand it” - stuffy nose, “I can’t get what I want; I don't want to take what they give me; I can’t talk about it” - sore throat. For children, the desire to learn is a natural need, the same as eating, drinking, playing, running... If a child does not want to learn, immediately look for: - a ban on being yourself, - a ban on being happy, - a ban on doing what you want, - a ban on trying something new. It is clear that parents always want the best for their children. It is clear that they have fear for the child and fear for themselves (what if I’m a bad mother!). Right now, push those fears aside, at least for a minute (then put them back in place if you want). Right here with a hand gesture - move it away. Now, from this position, calmly judge what he is protecting himself from when he doesn’t do his homework or is sick. Find the obstacles that interfere with its natural development and remove them. You can start with these. 1. Anxiety. Children are often overloaded intellectually and have absolutely no idea what to do with their feelings. They have no contact with them. They replace with anxiety the forbidden feelings of anger, fear, anger, rage, etc. Anxiety is tension. Tension is muscle tension. As a result, immunity decreases and the child gets sick. 2. Shame denies the child’s very right to exist and does not leave him with mental energy to live. When you are guilty, you know why, and you can somehow fix it. But it won’t work with shame. When a child hears: “I’m ashamed of you!” - he hears - “Don’t live!” How can I bear it? He begins to avoid the frightening reality, withdrawing first into himself and into illness, then into gadgets and dubious companies. 3. Fear. When a child is focused on the fear of making a mistake, of failing, he feels danger, he throws all his energy into protecting himself from stress and, of course, cannot enjoy studying. And when he does make a mistake, his energy is directed towards avoiding troubles in this regard, or on self-aggression, and not on analyzing the mistake, not on growth and not on the joy of overcoming difficulties. As a result, motivation to learn tends to zero, the psyche suffers, the body gets sick. What do you tell your child if he makes mistakes on a test? 1. “You are a ram, son of a ram”2. “Well, okay, just think about it”3. “It's okay to make mistakes. I did them too. Analysis of mistakes, like debriefing, promotes mastery." If you chose the third option, your child is lucky - he has a wonderful mother.