When men say the usual words of congratulations and wishes on March 8, addressing all women at once, there are those among women who understand harsh realism: no one rejoices at their smiles, no one admires their beauty and they don’t inspire anyone to fly. It’s easy to congratulate sought-after girls, emphasizing their advantages. But what about those girls who do not have obvious advantages? Being honest with themselves, such girls and women understand that their lives pass without interest from men. And they don’t even have a chance that the words of admiration uttered by men will be sincere. The reason that girls feel useless is often the exaggerated or even far-fetched tragedy of the situation. But, let’s be honest, there are also things that the girl is really so unattractive that she has no chance of a relationship. Extremely low indicators of objective significance, speaking in dry language and without going into detail about the reasons for her unattractiveness. Of course, as in most difficult situations, it will be useful for such girls to think about trying to change what can be changed; and not try to change what cannot be changed. And to distinguish one from the other, of course. Here I recalled a standard set of tips, which in many cases works well and which sometimes it would be useful to remind yourself. Let’s say that all these tips did not help. Then it makes sense to think about this: “Who said that you should look for happiness in relationships?” It's a delusion. If you look from the height of wisdom, which is beyond all vanity, it turns out that a person’s happiness does not depend on the quality of his relationships. And it doesn’t even depend on their presence. To understand this important idea, I advise you to start by remembering two ways to obtain happiness. The second of them is the most important. It is not surprising that during the holidays some quite well-looking people are overcome by the desire to get drunk and forget themselves. On such days, they intuitively understand that all their attributes of well-being and the “joyful music of spring happiness” do not bring them real satisfaction. The second method of obtaining happiness is potentially available to any person and does not depend on external indicators of objective significance and on interest from the opposite sex. That “love,” which everyone is talking about in the spring, is not love in the full sense of the word. Yes, it is obvious that not all women can receive attention and “love” from men. But in order to receive love without quotation marks, it is not necessary to be young, cheerful, beautiful, fashionably dressed, skilled in pleasant sexual techniques and smelling pleasant .Love is available even to those girls from whom men turn away with annoyance. The love that a person really needs is like a life-giving spring of joy, welling up from within. This source is inside every person. Of course, it does not reveal itself at the snap of a finger or just because a person has imbued with an understanding of the importance of revealing this source within himself. It is not so easy to find genuine joy under a layer of suppressed feelings, but it is worth it. Allowing the fullness of life to flow freely within yourself is more important than trying to generate joy in yourself from listening to compliments that are not always sincere. A useful addition. In addition to regular online and in-person consultations, I also suggest purchasing ready-made consultations collected on the basis of the best materials from modern specialists. Consultations with a psychologist are possible on almost any topic.