How to ensure that the intimate intimacy of people embodies all the potential for pleasure inherent in it, becomes one of the ways to understand the fascinating areas of the psyche, an option for obtaining useful sensory experience, a means of increasing the fullness of the psychological life, and even the type of knowledge of the spiritual (infinite) layer in us? For some categories of people, this question rests on numerous options for BDSM desires. It is important for them to understand what to do with unrealized fantasies in this topic. It seems to them that, having dealt with the topic of non-standard desires in themselves, the path to very vivid and truly strong experiences will open for them. But no matter how much they try themselves in this “topic”, the understanding periodically dawns that closer to the fullness of life and don't come any closer. No matter how much practical experience people gain in realizing their desires with the help of priestesses of love or representatives of the corresponding subculture who share BDSM views, there is still a feeling that everything in life is not going quite as it should be... Some even try to convince yourself to stop being “wrong” and become right. Any more or less experienced psychologist understands that our psyche does not work in such a way that we can seriously force ourselves to experience the “right” desires and not experience the “wrong” ones. Despite numerous attempts by some psychologists to continue working with the psyche in this way, there are no lasting results with this approach. What is the solution? In depth psychology, supplemented by some techniques from game theory and psychodrama. There are special techniques and methods. If you make a detailed overview of all of them and talk about the conditions of use, you can get a rather lengthy book. But in the practical work of a psychologist, they are selected individually, in the context of the situation and the request of a particular person. In these ways, you can not only relieve the tension that exists around forbidden fantasies, but do an even more important thing: eliminate the reasons why this tension arises inside. And as a result, a person has a healing internal contact with those layers where the roots of psychological problems are located. Even if we completely ignore the topic of sexual desires, we can say that in general, very, very many psychological problems of people are connected with the themes of power and violence. Properly organized contact with those layers where a person’s aggression is located returns vitality to him and helps him avoid many problems in social life. Quote: “Releasing repressed emotions is the way to cure depression.” Alexander Lowen. Working with suppressed feelings is generally the “royal path” used in all types of depth psychology. Serious and authoritative psychologists know about the importance of working with your repressed feelings. There are many interesting ways to find contact with your shadow, as well as to relieve that vague internal tension that often comes over people. Considerable relief comes from even just the initial awareness of themes associated with aggression, dominance, submission, anger, powerlessness, and so on. The root problem of the psyche lies not in the very fact of the presence of such “wrong” desires, but in the lack of development of themes associated with them. Useful addition. In addition to regular online and in-person consultations, I also suggest purchasing ready-made consultations collected on the basis of the best materials from modern specialists. Consultations with a psychologist are possible on almost any topic.