According to one popular science website that published the results of surveys on the topic: “What is women’s happiness?”, the top three answers are: having a husband, having children and the possibility of self-realization. Simple and accessible. But why are many women unhappy? Having a husband and children does not guarantee a harmonious relationship. The presence of the possibility of self-realization does not guarantee the realization of this opportunity. And instead of the long-awaited happiness, new problems appear. The reasons may be different, but the main one is inability or stereotypical relationship building. With yourself, with others, with life. I like the expression: “True love is the love of excess, abundance, which you want to share with others.” Such love is richer than love and relationships based on mutual insufficiency, a feeling of being incomplete without a partner. But how to become redundant, abundant and share with others, without harming yourself? I found the answers in bodily psychotherapy. In the process of growing up and becoming a personality, a child goes through seven developmental structures: Existence, Needs, Autonomy, Will, Love and Sexuality, Opinions, Solidarity. And if you are lucky with your parents and environment, the child grows up full and balanced. Such a person can build harmonious relationships, live with pleasure and self-realization. But what should a person whose parents were unable to fill all the structures do? There are many options: choose and develop yourself; live as it is; work out developmental traumas with a psychologist, etc. Everyone chooses their own path into a fairy tale or true story.