What is ZRL? How do people with this disorder behave? SPD is a dependent personality disorder, which manifests itself in the need to receive maximum support from loved ones. These people need others to satisfy their emotional needs, to be nearby, and to show their attention in every possible way. But most often, a person with SPD chooses just one person - the most beloved one - on whom he relies in absolutely all areas of life. How to recognize SPD? Panic fear of separation This is not the same thing as rejection. Separation is simply a temporary separation and in no way means that you are no longer loved. But if you have an addictive disorder, you will see this as a betrayal. A person with SPD does not feel like a full-fledged person; he is subconsciously convinced that he always needs someone else to be happy. Lack of desire to make decisions It is scary to decide in principle everything, down to the smallest detail. And if you have to do this, then after that the person will try in every possible way to understand whether he did the right thing. Fear of responsibility This usually extends to several areas of life at once: money, work, everyday life, raising children. People with SPD are only comfortable in a relationship with a hyper-controlling partner who strives to always be on guard. Fear of conflicts Open confrontation seems as scary to a person as responsibility. In order not to find himself in this unpleasant and stressful situation, a person with a disorder tries by all means to avoid confrontation, even if it is difficult and the contradictions between people increase. Forcing oneself to do something that I don’t want to do is direct evidence that the person has severely broken the connection with himself. the sphere of one's own feelings. He cannot understand what he would like to eat (sometimes he does not understand whether he wants to eat in principle), where he would like to go, what movie to watch. People with SPD make most of their choices out of toxic feelings: shame, guilt, fear. Helplessness Of course, this is false helplessness. If a person only wanted to become the master of his life and his main value, everything would turn out completely differently. But he is convinced that he is worthless and does not feel like a confident person capable of finding solutions to difficult situations. In addition, people with dependent disorder are very sensitive to criticism. They can be hurt by literally any word. This disorder is truly difficult to live with. Therefore, if you recognize familiar signs, do not ignore the problem. The quality of your life depends on this. Sincerely, your psychologist, consultant, cognitive behavioral therapist, Yulia Churina