A woman today is a woman yesterday Quite a lot of work and research has been devoted to the issue of sexuality, its development and formation. Therefore, I will not cite materials on the theory of sexuality, its empirical data, etc. In my opinion, What’s interesting is how things stand today, what are the current trends, views, and in general, what is happening with sexuality, and especially women’s. At the turn of the 21st century, sexologist Igor Kon believes, it is necessary to consider not sexuality, but sexuality, not sexual culture , and sexual cultures. The French psychologist, Gestalt therapist Brigitte Martel also prefers to consider various forms of sexuality, which helps a person open up, preserving the right to be himself while respecting other people and laws, and does not force him into a moral framework. The main changes of our time are that sexuality, sexual-erotic behavior and motivation move away from the reproductive task associated with procreation. Now humanity accepts the fact that sexuality is valuable in its own right, relatively autonomous and independent, which goes against the “principles of an anti-sexual civilization that allows sexual life only for the sake of procreation.” The separation of reproduction and sexuality gave rise to the development of contraception, which allows, first of all, women to engage in sex without fear of conception, and genetic engineering makes it possible to produce offspring “in vitro” without sexual intercourse. With the help of medicine, the age range of sexual activity is expanding, which makes it possible to correct impotence in men and anorgasmia in women. The cult of maintaining health, beauty and body began to be practiced by both women and men. Unfortunately, most often this applies to fairly wealthy segments of the population, which makes psychosexual processes and relationships dependent on the socio-economic relations of a given society. Shifts taking place in sexual culture are also associated with changes in the system of gender order (psychology of gender). And it is not men who contribute to this, but women, whose social status, activity and psyche are now undergoing radical and rapid changes. Women's interest in changes in social class relations is understandable and natural - they no longer want to be just housewives and serve a man and family, they strive, and step by step, satisfy the need for self-discovery and self-realization, mastering new types of activities. Psychologists even coined the term “housewife syndrome” (K. Tavris and K. Offir, 1997). It is argued that they are more prone to depression and low self-esteem than working women. But one can also see the “second side of the coin” - women do not always manage to achieve a balance between work and family, i.e. “Business woman syndrome” appears, causing mental tension and accompanied by feelings of guilt. Which is a consequence of intrapersonal conflict, when a woman strives to live up to the role of both the keeper of the family hearth and a good professional. This can lead to the fact that women are more likely than men to experience a lack of sexual desire. Today's trends lead to psychological self-changes and changes in collective self-awareness, and the way relationships with men should be changes. I.S. Cohn suggests that women's self-descriptions and women's images of masculinity (typical male expressions, characteristics and qualities) have changed more than men's in recent decades. Such shifts in gender attitudes do not mean that men become more “feminized” (i.e., effeminate), and women become more “masculine” (i.e., masculine) and, as a consequence, the formation of something “average”, simply femininity and masculinity is no longer polarities of one axis, but is seen as independent dimensions. A woman can have high levels of both femininity and masculinity, which allows them to adhere less rigidly to gender role norms,move more freely from traditionally female occupations to male ones, etc. – psychological androgyny. This provides a rich behavioral repertoire. Reducing the stereotyping of people by gender expands the possibilities for their uniqueness. Various variations have appeared that are not related to sex and gender. Men have become more involved in housework, and women in earning material resources. And naturally, this also manifests itself in the sphere of sexual relations. For example, the sexual revolution of the second half of the 20th century in the West was, first of all, a women's revolution. The principle of social equality leads to the idea of ​​equality and responsibilities in bed. “A comparative historical analysis of the dynamics of sexual behavior, attitudes and values ​​over the past half century shows a widespread sharp decrease in behavioral and motivational differences between men and women at the age of sexual debut, the number of sexual partners, the manifestation of sexual initiatives, attitudes towards eroticism, etc. <...>, which depends on the degree of social equality of the sexes. These shifts will undoubtedly continue in the 21st century.” Today's women, perhaps confirming their equality of the sexes, are active in dating, moving it to an intimate stage. Most likely, these trends in the sexual behavior of women will “relax” men, who, therefore, during the period of the sexual revolution turned their attention to pornography and masturbation (perhaps so as not to suddenly feel themselves in a “position from below”) and they will completely exclude courtship from their arsenal. Nature has laid down a certain period during which a man seeks a woman, and she looks closely at him, apparently in order to check the seriousness of his intentions, his readiness to raise offspring together. The woman acquired power over the reproductive processes and began to resolve this issue without the knowledge and man's consent. In addition, a woman is better at reflecting and verbalizing her sexual needs, and the use of such sexual positions as “women on top” and cunnilingus, which increase the sexual satisfaction of both partners, “deals a symbolic blow to phallocentrism and hegemonic masculinity.” And in one well-known print publication they indicate that today’s woman does not need to have a relationship with a man, all she will need is a good bank account, a promising job and a dildo. But the emotional and psychological needs do not disappear anywhere. The need to be loved, the need for tenderness, affection, care, and consideration are the most important psychological components of female sexuality. Partner sex is based on mutual consent, and not only high potency is required from a man, but also understanding, affection and tenderness. But men still do not connect their sexuality with emotional intimacy, relationships, but act as conquerors (as conquest and achievement). Masculinity is still associated with sexuality, where the size of the penis, the strength of the erection, the frequency of intercourse and the number of women play a big role, which is identified with aggression and violence. Despite the fact that there was a significant shift in sexual attitudes of the 20th century, for example, autoeroticism and masturbation began to be considered the norm, which reduces fear, guilt and shame, diversifying and complementing partner practice and even becoming a valuable form of sexual activity. Women need intimacy to appreciate sexuality; men need sexuality in order to value intimacy. In our time, there is no one specific set of attitudes regarding sexuality. They develop under the influence of the social environment, and the hierarchy of the value of sexuality changes and depends on the degree of development of the individual and accumulated life experience, worldview, on the wealth of the inner world, on individual traits (features of temperament, the severity of sexual need). In Russia, it is observed, as it is called I.S. Con anti-sexual hysteria, which, along with unfavorable social factors (low standard of living, birth rate, culture».