If YOU decide to go to a psychologist, then, naturally, you have this request. Your desire is a request. After all, you understand that something is wrong in your relationship with your partner, in your relationship with your parents, for some reason you eat a lot, and in the end, the doctor from the clinic referred you to a psychologist and said that you should go and get treatment my psychosomatics. By the way, I remember how, for the first time a long time ago, I came to a psychologist, and he said to me: “And then what do you want from therapy, from me?” And I sat there like a fool, my tears flowed and I asked myself, “Really, what do I want? Well, why did I even come here?” “I can’t help you without asking,” he said. Well, I got up and left. I never returned to him. Now I understand that if I came, then at least I want to talk and at least tell someone about what is happening to me: about the fact that I have headaches, about insomnia, about a big butt that just doesn’t want to go away from my body, about the sweets that I hide under the pillow and then scold myself for eating them at night, about the young man who doesn’t give me flowers, about the husband who plays tank every evening, about the mother who is worth calling, I drop everything and run to save her, about hard work, about the fool boss, about fits of rage and how I learned to suppress them... Just to talk, because all this no longer fits inside. Because there is no one else to talk to, everyone wants to be listened to. And this is the request to “just talk.” And in the initial stages of therapy it is very important. There are so many interesting things there! And the psychologist will notice your confusion and return it to you. He will carefully ask: - What happened? What happened to you when I said that I couldn’t help you? And if you find the strength, you stop in the moment, you will be able to notice that you always cope on your own, and no one can help you, because that’s how you were taught childhood. And someone will clearly say what they want: a car, an apartment, a dacha, a rich husband, not to work, a big salary, to lose weight, to the Maldives, to make peace with the husband, not to quarrel with mom, to send dad, not to yell at the child.. ..There are those too. Of course, a psychologist will not be able to give you a brand new BMW or a travel voucher, but he can help you understand why you need all this and how you can get it. How do you feel when you want it? What motivates you? Maybe you want all this inside yourself, and have never voiced it to anyone...What about crying? Cry when there is no one else with you? When did you get used to crying into your pillow? And I already have the strength to cry to myself... Then I can cry. I will bear your tears. Tears of parting, tears of fatigue, tears of powerlessness, tears for a person who has passed away from this world... When everyone says “drink some valerian and calm down,” and the tears form a lump in the throat and flow down the back of the throat, making it difficult to talk and breathe. And this There will also be a request for therapy. A request is always formed from a state, from what is happening to your body right now. After all, the body is your most important assistant. It has been with you since your birth and knows everything about you: about your reactions, about your feelings, about your fatigue. You just learned to be angry with it and ignore it. And this is also worth talking about. How angry you are with your body, what’s happening to you, how you punish it... So your impulse to go to a specialist is also good. The main thing is that you have it! You can always contact me for help at +79110300015. I accept online all over the world and in person in St. Petersburg and Otradnoe. Your E.A.