Good morning, dear readers, and happy spring! Do you know people who constantly feel sorry for themselves and complain about their bitter fate? Self-pity is not the best human state. Often such people like to go through all the ailments they have for this period, discuss how bad it was for them, when something happened and how scary life will be in the future. There is a mournful expression on their face, drooping shoulders, a sufferer’s voice and a silent plea in their gaze. They love to complain about everything, absolutely everything! They discuss the weather, and they are not satisfied with any season, they grumble about the government and their own loved ones, they like to wash the bones not only of others, but also of their former illnesses and constantly compare how it was and how it is now. You can also easily recognize them by the words “if only...” Self-pity gradually turns into a bad (even chronic) habit, which the person himself does not notice, and thereby narrows his view of the world and things in general, he learns to see only bad, uncomfortable, gloomy, terrible, heavy. They masterfully know how to inflate any small trouble into a problem on a global scale and with themselves in the main role, in the role of the victim. They will never do something that seems difficult to them, they will always feel sorry for themselves and will not give 100% in any task. Typical questions and phrases of such people: - for what? - why me again? - why this happened to me? - it had to happen... it’s always like this with me! - why try, nothing will work anyway... Next, you can continue on your own if there are such people among your family or friends. I know one such woman, a talented actress dies in her, but she often shows it to us when she wants to be pitied and not be overburdened at work. There are no limits to her imagination: she can limp, pretending that her kidneys are being lost, drag her leg behind her when people don’t believe her, skillfully squeeze out a tear from self-pity and the indifference of others, and sigh heavily on the couch - looking for support. When no one reacts to her, after a whole day of such a performance, she gets up cheerfully, puts herself in order and joyfully runs home to take sick leave... If you are also surrounded by such people, then it is better to reduce the time you communicate with them to the maximum. Their constant complaints not only knock the good mood out of you, but also make you think that the world is truly scary and unfair. You will helpfully shake the bones of your colleagues and relatives with them and you won’t notice how you have begun to focus more on the bad, the wrong, the allegedly unfair. Our social circle also creates a kind of background for our life. Remember the proverb “whoever you mess with, that’s how you get on”? – there is a huge amount of truth in these lines. You can feel sorry for yourself, but it is not always possible to receive the necessary sympathy from loved ones. But pity must also have a healthy measure that does not develop into a habitual complaining way of life. Not only do such people only drive themselves into depression, into negative emotions that destroy our body, organs, health, but they also cause trouble for those around them - stuffing them with their illnesses and complaints about husbands/wives/children/the world/work and etc. It is not very pleasant to communicate with such people. Those who are too impressionable carry with them a small mass of the load of grievances and complaints splashed out on them, and drag it home, where, without noticing, they unpack and feed. What can you do to stop feeling sorry for yourself? If you are not one of those people, but your friends constantly feed on your support and compassion, then stop providing them with this “help”. Reduce the time of meetings or refuse. If you are one of those who likes to feel sorry for yourself, then first try to track when you start playing your favorite record on autopilot, what genre is it? What do you most often complain about and what do you talk about most often: illness, family matters, work, country/government, etc.? Every time you catch yourself habitually falling into your rut of complaining, stop and think - Why am I doing this now? What I want