Life in constant tension In order for any system to function normally and not break down, it must alternate tension with rest. However, we ourselves do not notice that we live in constant tension. What types of tension are there: Physical Emotional Cognitive (intellectual) Volitional Of all these types of tension, we have the last three most often and most intensely. And most of all resources are consumed by cognitive and volitional tension. It is very expensive for our psyche. We all understand perfectly well that if we work out in the gym day and night, we can tear our backs, get a hernia, and we will need to rest after such activity for several days. But the same thing happens with other types of stress, but if the physical can be tracked and cause and effect can be linked, then with emotional, cognitive and volitional tension everything is very blurred. Many themselves do not notice that they are in constant chronic tension, and then they are surprised that there is no strength or resources. Emotional tension One client She complained that she didn’t seem to be doing anything significant, and by the evening she was so tired. We started to sort it out and it turned out that that day her child went for a walk. She didn’t get through to him and got worried, imagining a bunch of horrors. Although at that time the client was sitting in a comfortable chair and seemingly not doing anything, she was working incredibly hard inside herself: she lived through terrible events, fought, saved, and called hospitals. Hormones were running around like crazy, so it’s not surprising that by the evening she felt broken and exhausted. Yes, you can get tired of emotions! If they are long and intense. It’s good if you rest afterwards and let your body recover. And if not. It’s Santa Barbara at work, the kids are screaming at home, there’s a showdown with your husband, your drunk neighbor has drunk you again, and you go to swear, then your girlfriend came and started complaining about her unsuccessful life - and from morning to evening on emotions. The emotion that arose , must leave the body, but many emotions are undesirable for us. We hold back these bad emotions. This creates tension. It would be okay to tense up once, but emotions continue to live inside, accumulate, look for a way out, and this all increases the tension. And how many traumas, internal conflicts we have that live for years. Imagine living your life and carrying a bag of conflict stones on your back for decades. And the psyche spends resources, strains to contain them, not to let them into consciousness. So it turns out that in our lives a lot of seemingly invisible tension accumulates and drop by drop we spend a whole sea of ​​psychic energy. But what to do with this emotional tension ?Don’t turn your psyche into an emotional dump. Practice moments of emotional silence. These are meditations, relaxations, contemplative practices. Don’t hold back your emotions. If you can’t express it directly, well, you won’t give it to your boss, then still acknowledge your emotions, what you feel. Resolve internal conflicts, childhood traumas. All the energy of these conflicts, as well as the energy that is spent on containing them, will return to you. Can you imagine how powerful you will become? You can take all this energy and direct it towards realizing your dreams, and the problems along the way will crack like nuts. Fortunately, there are many psychologists now, many directions. There is also me) You can sign up for therapy with me. Otherwise, I know stories of how people have been complaining for decades about powerlessness, about a bad life, living with panic attacks, but constantly find excuses to go to a psychologist. Cognitive stress Cognitive stress is when our the brain perceives, processes information and draws conclusions from it. Today, many knowledge workers, this has not happened before. Our brain is not used to such intense and intense work. Namely, mental work consumes a lot of energy (one fifth of energy) in an active state. Even after work, the brain does not rest: courses, podcasts, useful videos - the brain continues to work. And there is a lot around us.