From the author: psychotherapist, sexologist, TV program expert, member of the professional psychotherapeutic league, NLP master, educational psychologist, existential neuroprogramming specialist, personal well-being specialist and family relationships, trainer, coachMost of us have some kind of negative sexual experience that we would like to eliminate in order to reveal our sexual capabilities and enjoy both the process and the result. It was this problem that I came across as a sexologist, working with a client from Moscow. She was a pretty positive girl, and on top of everything else, she had a “short” memory. It is known that all psychologists, sexologists and psychotherapists, when working with a client, are constantly looking for some clues, acting on which can quickly solve the client’s situation. Here there were a minimum of problematic memories, which in this case worked as a plus, because the girl could realize I didn’t remember the problem, but I didn’t remember what was at its core. Which, in general, sped up our work. And while sorting out the past negative sexual experience, we quickly removed everything that stood behind it (the girl said this: “useless sexual relationships”), and moved on to other sexual problems of the client. One of them was called: “tension when achieving orgasm.” The girl perceived sex as a kind of work, and explained that there is a beginning of sex and there is an end (orgasm). And everything that lies between this is a kind of work. The problematic condition itself lived in her like a core, and it did not give in to us so easily , I had to disassemble and eliminate everything that stood behind it piece by piece. Such thoughts gave her some kind of protection from having sex. Then the client remembered that we had removed the past negative sexual optics, and the partner she had now completely suited her, and she easily let it go. Further, the problematic state operating in her gave her coldness. Now she left as unnecessary, and instead the client received freedom, lightness and relaxedness. To be continued....