In our society, it is not customary to teach family science and prepare for the role of spouses and parents. Therefore, everyone emerges as best they can, most often focusing on the example of their parental family, how their immediate environment lives, and the media. Or he follows the path of self-education, but this is with an initial understanding of the importance of this topic. In this article I want to look at the erroneous stereotypes of men regarding their role as a father. These stereotypes are associated mainly with an incorrect understanding of the content and essence of the father's role itself and are a direct consequence of a lack of understanding of the psychological aspects of raising children.1. Refusal of the educational function on an equal basis with the wife and taking on only the function of providing for the family. “I feed, sing, dress, and let the mother take care of the upbringing.” This is a fundamentally wrong position, which in our society is especially clearly manifested in the deformation of raising boys using female methods. And for girls, this gives rise to a distorted idea of ​​relationships with a man (after all, a girl’s first man is her dad).2. The expectation that the child owes something to the father as a given. “I am your father, so you must love and respect me.” Over time, this attitude creates a strong emotional distance between the child and the father, because the child does not feel owed and resists. And when violence is used, it generally closes.3. "Everything should be like people's." Rejection of the individuality of one’s own, one’s family and one’s child. Driving the child into the Procrustean bed of one’s ideas about “normality.” Naturally, without taking into account the desires, abilities and aspirations of the child himself.4. “There is no trick against scrap.” Tendency to resolve situations using force. The consequences may be: the child’s aggressiveness with peers, neuroses, low self-esteem and depression, the desire to achieve everything by force - as the only way to solve problems.5. I'm a man! Refusal to interact with a child in non-male ways of communication, because this is a “women’s business.” Fear of losing my masculinity in this. It manifests itself in the absence of gentleness, empathy, willingness to put the child on an equal footing, to recognize his personality.6. Ignoring personal communication with the child. Showing love through gifts and money. As a result of such upbringing, teenagers end up in bad companies, because they communicate with them and value them. Also, they experience various depressive states from lack of attention and emotions from their parents, and they may begin to behave badly in order to at least emotionally interact with their father in this way. Boys often develop low self-esteem, feelings of uncertainty and insecurity.7. Wife's jealousy of children. Perception of children as rivals for the possession of a wife. As a result, either emotional distance and not recognizing oneself as a father (only as a husband), or falling into the position of “the youngest child.” The influence of stereotypes on the father’s behavior and position can be significantly reduced through education: About the extreme importance of a man’s participation in the educational process. equal responsibility of parents for what will come out of the child in the end About the age-related needs of the child in the father and mother About the age-related characteristics, skills and capabilities of the child About ways for the child to interact without inflicting (unwittingly) psychological trauma Well, at least.