From the author: A list of the most common children's tricks, the frequency and intensity of use of which may be signs of the formation of dependent behavior in a child. Borrowed from the book “Family Counseling” by B.B. Grunwald and G.W. Macabee. The word “addiction” has firmly entered the lexicon of modern man. Most often they talk about chemical dependence - alcohol or drug addiction, but in reality the meaning of this word is much broader. Psychologists use the word “dependence” to mean any painful attachment that limits a person’s capabilities and is an obstacle to his development and self-realization. Attachment can be to anything and anyone - not only to a chemical substance, but also to food, activity, activity, person, group of people. Addictions include pathological jealousy and even socially encouraged workaholism or extreme sports. Here are just some “addictive” topics from the numerous requests on this subject from visitors to the b17.ru forum to professional psychologists: “My addictive behavior and true desires” “I have an Internet addiction, how can I get rid of it?” “Psychological dependence on parents” “Addiction to food" "Dependent relationships" "Dependence on a man" Any addiction has a psychological origin, and its prerequisites are formed very early, in the first years of life. Addiction is often based on the child’s unmet needs for parental love and attention, in the struggle for which the child develops his own ways to control and manipulate his parents. Some of these methods irritate or even infuriate parents, but some are quite pleasant, because they make parents feel important and omnipotent. Below is a list of the most common children's tricks, the frequency and intensity of use of which may be signs of the formation of dependent behavior in a child. The list is borrowed from the book “Family Counseling” by B.B. Grunwald and G.V. Macabee: - A child requires a service, for example: “Mom, give me a glass of water (fork handle, my shoes, etc.) - The child is waiting when you wake him up. - The child needs reminders to practice music, do homework, not be late for the doctor, be home in time for lunch (dinner), etc. - The child expects you to remind him to took with you your breakfast, textbook, homework, mittens, etc. - The child refuses to do homework until you sit next to him. - The child watches TV (plays on the computer) at any free moment. The child says that he is bored and that you should “keep him busy” or tell him what to do. - The child refuses to walk even a very short distance on his own. - The child refuses to play until others agree to play the game he is playing. he wants. - The child cries when he loses a game. - The child vomits or exhibits other digestive symptoms when forced to eat something he does not want. - The child “forgets” to take care of his pet. - The child allows you when you go together, carry his things for him, which he could easily carry himself. - The child demands that you go to school and tell the teacher that the children tease him and treat him badly. - The child demands that you go to school and resolved an unpleasant situation that he himself created. - The child asks, “What should I say?” when he needs to tell someone about a situation or problem. - The child constantly demands that you tell him that you love him. - The child gets upset that you did not tell him that he (she) is a good boy (good girl). - The child wants to be praised for everything he does. - The child demands that you tell him what to wear and choose his clothes. - The child demands that you accompany him.