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From the author: The topic of online dating is very relevant, effective and often very painful. Without realizing it, people inflict many injuries on each other, which they then have to deal with. And I want people to find happiness with the help of a great tool called the Internet. In the modern world, a lot of dating happens through the Internet. It is convenient and modern, but such communication has its own specifics and rules of the game. After all, on the one hand, this is communication without interrupting your business and changing your lifestyle. On the other hand, this is attention focused on the screen and life running by. These are overwhelming emotions, which are often nothing more than a play of the imagination. In live communication, we receive more than 80 percent of information non-verbally, i.e. besides words. This includes facial expressions, voice intonations, gestures and body signals. In most cases, all this is assessed by the brain unconsciously, giving the result in the form of trust or distrust in the words spoken. When communicating online, this filter is absent. People with a rich imagination fill in what is missing in their picture, giving emotional coloring to the words and, often, change their meaning without guessing with what message it was written. People with poor imagination read only the essence, losing from the text the emotions that the author wanted to convey. And words continue to come from the screen directly, without additional criteria for checking them for the truth of perception. Thus, illusions, misunderstandings, understatements are created, and as a result, being left alone with the screen, very often, instead of the expected result, people receive disappointed expectations, and as a result, psychological trauma. Below is a short list of features of communication using messages: A person hides behind a screen . Nobody knows what he really is. Therefore, even the most sincere communication occurs between two fictional characters. Entertainment is possible. Often a character is invented deliberately and a person plays it. Simple rules of etiquette are not observed, and people often offend each other with inattention. For example, a dialogue breaks off in the middle of a conversation, and one of the people goes off to do business, while the other sits in front of the screen and waits for hours for the conversation to continue. A person is distracted from communication by his real life and is lost for an indefinite period of time, often without having time to explain the reasons, especially if he is communicating he is at work. During his absence, a suspicious interlocutor manages to come up with many unpleasant versions. The impossibility of tactile contact at a certain stage of development of correspondence becomes an additional stress factor. Conversational communication. Many people, especially at the beginning of a relationship, have several conversations in parallel. On the one hand, this saves time, on the other hand, it leads to a loss of trust in each other, because... the expectation remains that this is possible. And a new round of dialogues instead of resolving the conflict. In addition, on dating sites, many people encounter rudeness and vulgarity. And they take them to heart or personally, losing self-confidence and the desire to continue communication. However, more often than not, bitter or hurtful words flying onto the screen are just revenge mistakenly directed at you to someone else. However, when left alone with the screen, it is very difficult not to react to this. Therefore, when you are looking for love on the Internet, it is very important to periodically find yourself in the real world among like-minded people and help each other. By getting together and having the opportunity to share, these stories can be spoken, heard that they are not only happening to you and take away their significance . They will simply stop caring about you. If you have the opportunity to meet, meet! After our “Internet Dating Academy” training, we will definitely hold several such support meetings. At which we not only discuss the difficulties that have arisen and little psychological secrets, but we also make sure to relieve tension and remove the negativity that may come from the network