Each consultation necessarily contains the question: what do you feel? At first I hear the same thing: “I think that I feel...” Thinking, of course, is good (?!), but you feel what really? After some time, sometimes quite a long time, I begin to hear the answer to my question: “I feel...” Before this, the usual answer is a description of everything, anything but naming my feelings. It’s hard to imagine that As a child, when you stomp your foot, your mother would tell you: “You’re angry!” Or, when you are spinning with delight and shouting, “You rejoice!” Or, when you hug a cat: “You love our Vaska!” We don’t know our feelings, we don’t know how to name them, we don’t know how to identify them. The worst thing is when we refuse to feel at all and learn to think about feelings, we actually repress them . “Bad” feelings cannot be experienced. “They are destroying,” we think. “Good” feelings cannot be shown. They will be jealous, or, God forbid, they will jinx it. So we walk around as the living, emotionless dead. All our feelings flow along the same highway. Like a stream of cars on the road. If we block a road, cars stop moving along it. ALL! It can't be that rich, beautiful cars are leaking or flying over. No. It’s the same with feelings. If you decide to control your “bad” feelings, then the good ones will stop too. This is the answer to the question of many of my clients: “Everything is fine with me now. One could enjoy and rejoice. But for some reason there are no feelings. I don’t experience happiness and don’t enjoy what I have! What’s happening to me?” Meanwhile, life is a sensual category. It is through feelings that we realize what we like and what we don’t. It is feelings that make it possible to be aware of yourself, to feel the fullness of life. How to learn to feel? If you have a desire to start acting in this direction, then the simplest thing you can start doing is to periodically stop in your flow of life and ask yourself the question: what Am I feeling now? A Dictionary of Feelings will help you. Study the feelings, recognize them within yourself, allow yourself to experience them. For those who want quick results to wake up from hibernation. We must realize that the greatest fear of facing one’s feelings is the fear of facing one’s pain, one’s anger, one’s hatred. These are the feelings that are difficult to admit to yourself. Most often, the suppression of these feelings begins in childhood. To a mother who called you names or spanked you for something that wasn’t your fault, and didn’t even bother to look into it. You can’t be angry. The psyche represses such feelings in order to allow you to survive. And it closes access to both the event and feelings. Therefore, in order to allow yourself to feel, it is important to allow yourself to see your reinforced concrete blocks on your highway of feelings. And the very first meeting occurs with feelings that are not always pleasant: pain, resentment, hopelessness, grief, indifference, hatred. This kind of work is difficult to do on your own. Our defenses work very well. As a rule, encountering such strong feelings is accompanied by encountering psychological trauma. And such work can only be done with a specialist. You can sign up for a free 20-minute consultation. And to study feelings on your own, a picture and a dictionary of feelings, which can be found here, will help you.