There is a type of people who start complaining about their lives on forums or in comments. At the same time, they do not respond to the advice that people give, or their answers are similar to “yes, but...”. That is, a person is not going to do anything to solve his problem, despite the compassionate advisers who are around. Why then does a person complain if he denies any help? Why does he need to pour out his soul on the Internet? In my opinion, this is some kind of substitution, this is the illusion that he is doing something in his life. That is, he turned on the computer, found a forum, wrote a long and beautiful text, the illusion is created that he is trying to solve the problem, but the advice that people give him seems not at all suitable for him, his problem seems too global, unsolvable. In fact, a person is not going to solve his problems, is not going to change his life. He is deceived by doing something for himself in his life. In fact, it’s so convenient for him. The person is afraid of change. He's not ready for this. Our body strives for inertia - to save as much energy as possible. Change feels dangerous because we don't know what's behind it. And everything unknown seems dangerous to our body. We choose stability: stable loneliness, stable low salary, stable uninteresting friends, stable alcoholic husband. Suddenly the second husband will drink even more and beat her even more often. Suddenly another job will be too difficult, and the boss will be even more angry. The unknown scares us. Wait. Before we were born, was there uncertainty? It was, we were born, nothing bad happened. We went to school for the first time, was there uncertainty? It was, but if you are reading this text, it means everything ended well. Was there any uncertainty before you had your first kiss? Was there some kind of tragedy after that? I think that many people have only the best memories associated with this. Let's turn our vision 180 degrees. Let's notice the bright colors in autumn, let's see beautiful people on the street, let's feel the romance of a cozy evening in the rain. We send our thoughts into space. When we send the thought: “I am poor and unhappy, I am so unlucky in love.” The Universe answers us: “Yes, you are poor and unhappy, you are unlucky in love.” Let everyone who does not believe in the materialization of thoughts forgive me. I just want to say, stop shifting responsibility to your bosses, husbands, country, weather. You make your own life, you decide how to live it: in constant complaints about circumstances or enjoying every moment of your life. If you are 30 years old, you are not married, you consider yourself unhappy and lonely because of this, remember the words of Dale Cornegy: “I considered myself an unhappy person because I didn’t have shoes until I saw a man without legs...»