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From the author: Depression is a dangerous darkness, in the darkness of which loneliness, shame, guilt, anger, fear are hidden..... Depression is like the “plague” of our century. Research is being conducted in all countries this phenomenon of the century, new medicines and new methods of help are being invented. New patterns and features are opening up. In psychoanalytic therapy, often clients with depression find the roots of their problems not in feelings of guilt, but in shame and the anger born of this shame. Shame and guilt are always there. Interesting research data on shame and guilt is provided by Eero Rehard and colleagues. Often, if a person experiences guilt and is exposed, he begins to feel shame for his guilt. And most often it is the fear of shame for guilt that gives rise to various defenses against guilt. The fear of shame for guilt turns out to be stronger and more painful than the fear of guilt. On the forum, topics often appear about depressive states, feelings of guilt for something. All this, according to descriptions, can be accompanied by low self-esteem, frequent anger, malice, omnipotence, a tendency to loneliness, and sometimes shamelessness. Underneath all this, suppressed unconscious shame may be hidden. As psychoanalytic practice shows, often overcompensation for shame is high demands on oneself or others, hyperactivity, the desire to attract increased attention from others, antisocial behavior, addictions and pronounced vanity. Defenses against shame are often propensities to exhibitionism, ambition. Sometimes depressive passivity, inactivity, lack of energy for activity is a kind of protection from shame. But if a person nevertheless forces himself and is active in the world, then he can then feel his falsehood, pretense, fatigue, sometimes apathy and disgust for himself and other people. It is difficult to recognize suppressed shame, and it is difficult to approach the topic of shame in therapy. Usually, approaching this topic gives rise to resistance on the part of the client. Patience, unhurriedness in therapy and good safe contact are required. A significant part of the therapy time is working on awareness and reducing the resistance of the client’s psyche. Awareness of one’s own early shame and the reproducible unconscious scenarios generated by it allows depression to recede. This work is not quick, but it allows you to make the desired changes in your life..