From the author: Probably in every woman’s life there was a man in whom she believed more than she needed, and gave him more than he deserved. The main thing is to get out of this situation with the least loss for yourself. What does a woman expect from her man? She is waiting for her “dreams to come true”! He will come and “make the fairy tale come true.” She has the right. A classic of the genre - a woman dreaming of a wedding (“I’ll be in such a dress, with such a hairstyle, all my girlfriends will be jealous”) and absolutely not thinking that then “someone” will appear next to her, who will snore, blow his nose cold time, etc. But how does she wait? This is the main question. We must pay tribute to our women, they are waiting very actively. Our women have a huge thirst for unspent love - a mixture of maternal instinct (and a great desire to give) and a romantic girl (and a great desire to receive). In what proportion this mixture is the result of a woman. But more often than not, a woman wants to “give.” So, a woman is waiting, full of love and the desire to give. Like a horse standing at the starting line, beating its hooves with impatience. And our woman sees a MAN on the horizon! What happens next? Our woman already has almost everything for a happy life (she went to psychologists, went to trainings, and read something on the Internet): - she has an understanding of a happy life with a man, - she has a vision of what happy SHE will be there, in this happy life - there is an understanding of what kind of man she needs. There is only a man. And when our woman sees a MAN on the horizon, she instantly inserts him into her picture like a missing puzzle. Without even recognizing him well as a person and as a person. As in that joke - we just met, and she has already decided what she will name their common children. And it is the maternal instinct that prevents recognition: “Doesn’t live up to the ideal? Nothing, he was just unlucky in life. I’ll help him!”. He can’t - We’ll teach you, if she doesn’t want to, we’ll force you! And the woman gets involved in the work like a black man on a plantation. And he begins to motivate a man, smoothly (or not smoothly) leading him to become his ideal. And he shows such miracles of creativity that marketing specialists are amazed. One of my clients bought her man a player and recorded an audiobook of Brian Tracy on it so that her man I walked and listened to this information all the time. She also put together a whole program for his development. Another client took an expensive cell phone on credit and gave it to her man, because she decided that if this man had the attributes of a successful and rich life, he would be more motivated to achieve success (and they dreamed the two of them, that he will become a deputy). In addition, she fed him like slaughter and took him to a restaurant with her own money (“Nothing, he will soon become rich, and everything will be returned to me”) He did not become a deputy, and will not become. She is still paying off the loan. A woman sometimes forgets about herself and tries to give all the best to a man, because if he succeeds, her dream will come true. Later, a light appears in the woman’s thoughts. She begins to understand that something is wrong here - time passes, but nothing really changes. The woman is carried to the other extreme - she tries to make a scandal, demand what was promised to her (even though she herself decided that the man owes her this). A woman wants to invest less and less in this particular man and more in herself. A little later, she will break off this relationship and move on with her life. Until she meets a new man. Will the woman eventually learn anything? It depends on a lot. If a woman’s maternal instinct is very strongly developed, then she can give indefinitely for a long time and infinitely much (stories with gigolos and giving them apartments are proof of this). You can also call such relationships “karmic”, and those who give themselves to men are very a lot of forces are their “karmic debtors.” But if you take a woman’s whole life, then her “wisdom” occurs precisely in the process of communicating with men and her entire life experience is the path from man to man. And all our problems in relationships arise because of our illusions: - we trusted too much in strangers!