Envy. What is this feeling? It is likely that it is familiar to each of us, but let’s figure out what it brings to our lives. Envy is a feeling of frustration caused by the success or well-being of another person. The word appeared in the Old Russian language only in the 11th century, and the verb “to envy” most likely meant “to see in the distance” or “to gaze at”. The adjective “envious” in its modern meaning appeared in dictionaries only towards the end of the 18th century. If we consider the feeling from the point of view of psychology, then envy is a complex set of emotions and experiences experienced due to the presence of certain material or intangible values ​​in another person. This feeling is considered negative and undesirable, as it contributes to anxiety. This is a feeling of annoyance and a feeling of dissatisfaction, bitterness, irritation. This is pride - after all, if someone is higher and more prosperous, then this is unacceptable for an envious person, and at the same time it is a destructive feeling, the cause of many nervous diseases. If a person is only capable of envy, but does nothing to meet his needs that arose against the background of the well-being of another person, he will accordingly self-destruct and this feeling will not bring anything new, creative, or conducive to personal growth into his life. The point is that envy can trigger a destructive process of auto-aggression, “I’m not capable of anything,” “I can’t do anything,” “I’m worse,” and similar thoughts that can lead to various behavioral deviations and aggression. Depression occurs, since envy is a fairly strong negative feeling and it triggers the production of cortisol in the adrenal cortex, and if this happens constantly, the mood accordingly worsens and the general emotional background becomes dysphoric. There may be anger towards a person whom he considers more successful, there may be ideas of revenge and unflattering statements addressed to a person who, in fact, has nothing to do with it at all, he just works more, sleeps less and spends time on entertainment. He’s just purposeful and moving towards his goal, progressively, systematically, or maybe he’s already achieved several goals and is working on it further. Envy is a truly personal quality and it is more characteristic of persons with low self-esteem, intrapersonal conflicts, persons with narcissistic disorder, and psychopaths. The fact is that when there is adequate reflection and understanding that it is possible and capable of achieving the same results as a given object of envy, such a feeling ceases to exist and a person understands that he is an individual, that he wants to develop in his own direction, to achieve of their results, their self-worth increases. Being busy in the direction of his own activities, he spends less time assessing someone else’s successes, and pays more and more attention to his own successes. The prerequisites for envy are laid in childhood, when there is no unconditional love for the child and he thinks that he is loved for something, strives to achieve this love from his parents by getting good grades at school, helping around the house and he still has the feeling that he they love not himself, but his success. As a result, such children are very sensitive to the fact that they praise others. Punishments for the slightest offense also leave their mark; such children will always have a reprehensible attitude towards the success of others, since everything was not easy for them. In some families, it is believed that wealth is bad and the child, receiving such attitudes from childhood, believes that people do not achieve everything in life honestly. Imposed negative attitudes toward life also bear fruit, when it is believed that life is complicated and full of disappointments. Having matured, such a person will treat other people's successes as injustice towards him. If a child has little personal freedom and his parents constantly reproach him for having+79205640348