Fear of making a mistake. It’s a very common phenomenon; moreover, it’s even very normal to experience such fear. It seems to me that it’s in human nature to be a little afraid of the consequences of one’s actions. But when this fear constrains you too much, to such an extent that all you can do is lie there and be afraid. Then in this case it is better to start working with a psychologist; a person cannot cope alone. For example, if a person is somewhere in the middle of the range of fear, that is, he really wants action, but the fear of making a mistake stops him. Perhaps in this case there is not even fucking mistakes, but what is scary is that something else that will happen next will happen later if nothing works out. For example, a person is afraid to change jobs. He is afraid that the new job will be worse and therefore continues to suffer, endure and go to the old job. And he explains to himself that he is afraid of making a mistake. Let's remember that we all make mistakes about something all the time. This means, yes, you can make a mistake in choosing a job and then begin to correct this mistake, that is, find a job you like. But even this understanding does not reduce the fear of making a mistake. Therefore, I propose to look further at what will happen if a person realizes that he was mistaken. And this is where the fun begins. Many may begin to blame themselves, that is, commit acts of self-aggression. This is when a person’s aggression is directed against himself. And few people want to experience such aggression. And it turns out that it’s not the fact of making a mistake that’s scary, but that you don’t want to beat yourself up for this mistake, which is why arguments and explanations from the series “don’t be afraid to make mistakes, everyone makes mistakes” sometimes don’t work when it’s scary to do something. That’s why I suggest look into the future, so to speak. Ask yourself “if I make a mistake, what will happen next?” And then answer yourself honestly and draw the consequences, then ask again “what will I do next then?” And so you can build all aspects of fear and even discover what can actually stop you from taking decisive steps. Maybe a person sometimes focuses too much on the action itself, but does not look at the whole picture of the world. And if you expand your viewing angle, you can see the true cause of fear. Author Aliev Andrey - Psychologist online