At one of the seminars dedicated to solving the problems of marital conflicts, the presenter asked the audience a question - Girls, which of you is married? Since almost only women were present in the audience, a forest of hands rose. Looking at the hands frozen in the air, the presenter asked - Who is in front of the husband? Hands fell, but a roar began to grow in the audience, which smoothly turned into laughter. A good question, isn’t it? - And you, dear reader, how would you answer this question - Are you in front of your husband or are you, really, BEHIND your husband? If you are married or planning to get married, you need to understand one truth - marriage presupposes marriage. Precisely, that you will be BEHIND your husband. Not in front of my husband. Not over my husband. Not under my husband. What does it mean to be FOR your husband? 1) Accept his leadership, accept him as the head of the family 2) Accept his care, support, protection 2) Accept him and support him in everything If you are a modern woman who asserts herself in life, makes her career or business, you It will be difficult to accept this. Moreover, to implement it. But there is no third option. Marriage assumes that you will be FOR your husband. You won't be the first. You will be the second one, standing on the left and behind. What prevents a woman from understanding and accepting this simple truth? Beliefs: 1) There are no worthy men or they have all been taken away, we have to deal with those unworthy ones who remain. 2) All men are goats and dogs and they only need one thing from us. 3) A man is a rude animal. 4) Today’s men are weaklings, infants, abusers, mama’s boys, they can’t do anything on their own and they need to be pulled through life, taught, remade, re-educated. 5) You don’t need to expect anything from a man, I will achieve everything myself. 6) There should be equality in the family. This, of course, is not a complete list of beliefs. But they are all irrational beliefs that limit you. What to do? 1) If you do not accept the position – It’s better not to marry your husband. You will be better off alone until you identify your irrational beliefs about men and transform them into new rational ones. 2) Understand that there is nothing better than a good marriage, it is much better than loneliness in any form. But a good marriage presupposes that you will be BEHIND your husband 3) A woman can be the first in the family, and her husband is behind her - this is a myth. Women get married. Men don't marry their wives. Men get married. A man’s “gut” will never accept being with his wife. If a woman is a leader and this suits both spouses, there will be no true happiness in such a family (although psychologists have such a trick - as long as you feel good). 4) Finally, we come to the main thing - I am often accused of advocating a patriarchal family , but the world has changed, and the marriage of a man and a woman is undergoing changes. They say that civil marriages have appeared, guest marriages, yes, whatever. Yes, a lot of new things have appeared. Drugs that few people knew about, for example, also appeared and received unprecedented distribution in the countryside. But this does not mean at all that such progress is good. This no longer looks like progress, but like regression. I advocate for a marriage in which the man takes the lead in showing attention, respect and care to his woman. I stand for a marriage in which a man protects his woman and allows her to feel like a real woman. I stand for a marriage in which the man is the breadwinner and provides for the family. What do you think about it? – you are for such leadership of men in the family?