From the author: Published on May, 2012 “I love my wife, but I would kill my mother-in-law” (notes about) How often in life do you hear from others or say similar phrases yourself: “My wife I love him, but I hate my mother-in-law,” “I love my husband, but I wouldn’t even see my mother-in-law.” Let's take a deeper look at what happens in such cases, what kind of relationship the spouses have with each other when one of them allows himself to say something like that. A mother-in-law or mother-in-law is the mother of your spouse. A person who says this would like to ask: “Do you really love your spouse? Do you accept your own mother?” Think about it. When you talk about his/her mother in front of your spouse, how should he/she feel? Imagine saying this about your mother. Subconsciously, any person begins to feel that he is also not accepted, not appreciated, not respected, not loved, because a child is a part of his parent, no matter how much you tell yourself that you are not like that. And then it creeps up unnoticed, and a cooling gradually appears in the relationship between the spouses. Reflect on what has been said. Have you ever thought about this? What do you achieve as a result when you speak badly about your mother-in-law or mother-in-law? Does this bring harmony to your relationship with your spouse? Note: You may object - and the wife herself sometimes speaks poorly of her mother, for example. I will say right away that this is a completely different story. In this situation, the wife thus criticizes part of herself. When you talk “badly” about yourself or someone about you. There is a difference? Advice in this situation. To maintain a warm, respectful relationship, love and mutual understanding with your spouse, try to say only good things about your mother-in-law. If you think that there is nothing good to say, it is better to remain silent than to constantly cause mental pain to your beloved wife (husband). If you really love your partner, then look at his parents with loving eyes. The criterion for this is gratitude to your husband’s (wife’s) parents, and not criticism or condemnation. Thank you for what? Think for yourself. I wish you Happiness! Tamara Kolesnichenko Read more: http://samo-razvitie7.com/moi-statji#ixzz20Ji7F5Ex