People love to be praised. However, it is very important that praise does not turn into addiction. If the boss praises you for a job well done, this does not mean that he will say it again. And a person is already developing sensitivity to other people’s opinions. That is, he will try to do everything perfectly, fearing that people will say that he did a bad job. How can you tell if a person is dependent on praise? For example: - You don’t like it when your work is criticized; - There is a desire to thank people and give them compliments; - You take on additional responsibilities if asked by a superior person; - Success is measured by other people’s assessments; - You are constantly interested in the opinions of others without listening to your own; - Apologize often; - Don’t complain if necessary; - Adapt to others, such a person is a chameleon; - Compliments are like a source of energy. Of course, problems with this behavior most often come from childhood. Parents could make excessive demands on the child. They expected more than the child could. Therefore, growing up, the child tries to win love and respect through achievements, through a career, and many hobbies. He sets a high standard for himself, so, of course, any praise or career leap for him serves as confirmation of his importance. Why is this bad? It is worth understanding why the expectation and fear of disapproval is not rational. It often happens that a person expressed disapproval for the wrong reason. What was done poorly, but he simply has his own problems and personal views that do not coincide with yours. Criticism is not always bad. It helps to find errors and correct them. Even a lot of mistakes do not mean that everything is being done incorrectly. Whether it is worth being upset because of disapproval is up to everyone to decide for themselves. You can give up and forget, but someone will cheat themselves all day long. How to get rid of the addiction to praise You can keep a diary and write down all the events that deserve approval. This will allow you to come to approval of yourself, your actions and independence from other people’s opinions. By the way, these actions will be very useful for managers, since they, too, can often be dependent on their attitudes from childhood. At the same time, you want to be better, especially when it comes to your career. But I really don’t want to constantly wait for someone’s approval and curry favor. You can praise yourself and understand that even if outsiders didn’t bother to do it, everything is still fine. Group study “Fear. Anxiety. Depression." 3 psychologists will help you get rid of your problems. Join via the link http://t.me/Psychology_depression_bot