Women who decide to leave their husbands or long-term partners in long-term relationships have been branded in the popular media as "wives who abandon" and the additional term for the spouse from whom she leaves becomes "jilted." The division into these two parts may make logical sense - when a relationship falls apart, someone has to be the one to metaphorically leave the relationship and literally leave the shared home. Regardless of who stays behind, research shows that women are more likely to initiate divorce than their husbands . In fact, according to some data, about 70 percent of divorces are initiated by women. Leaving with Heavy Baggage Feeling the urge to leave a marriage or relationship is not the same as making the decision to end the relationship. Here are the main reasons why marriages fail: Relationship problems - when the relationship is no longer fully satisfying Behavioral problems - abuse in one form or another, addiction problems, destructive behavior in the family Infidelity is not always the deciding factor, but for many it is turning point. Responsibilities are shared unevenly - this could be housework, family accounting, childcare, pet care, or some other couple-specific responsibilities. Values ​​- different values ​​are often not revealed until marriage, but shared values ​​are key protective factor for long-term relationships, while different values ​​can create differences that only grow over time. The door opens There is now an increasing trend of people marrying later in life than in previous decades. However, once the benefits of ending the marriage tip the scales and outweigh the reasons for staying in the marriage, the decision is made to end the marriage. When the Door Closes Research shows that the person initiating the separation experiences significant psychological relief immediately after the divorce, as they often experience significant emotional distress in the period leading up to the decision. about breaking up. While the burden of divorce is lifted from the initiator, the abandoned husband does not feel the psychological blow until the door closes behind his wife. There is a sense of empowerment when she announces her plans. A spouse may be completely blindsided by the news that their partner wants a divorce, but this ignorance only adds fuel to the fire that causes the partner to end the marriage. After the dust settles Unfortunately, divorce can have serious financial consequences for women due to the persistence gender gap in pay and childcare, which often falls squarely on the shoulders of the mother. Men may experience a significant decline in subjective well-being after divorce, but their financial stability often increases. Management To help maintain your emotional well-being if you leave, it is important to minimize the frequency with which you see your ex-partner. Post-divorce dating can be psychologically distressing and, depending on your ex-partner's behavior, emotionally damaging. The “abandoned” spouse can react in different ways, here are three common lines of behavior: Making a decision and moving forward. This is the "best case scenario". When separation or divorce is a joint decision, discussed and planned, moving forward and starting a new single journey is easier for both people. Men often suffer more than women as marriages break down due to the loss of their primary means of support. Expressing anger and resentment. They may feel excessive anger towards their wives and seek retribution for the emotional injustice they feel they have suffered. In severe cases, they may try to continue their controlling or abusive behavior through any means necessary. Violation of financial.