In my article “The Blind Spot in Relationships,” I talked about how different men and women are and how this is expressed in life and in relationships. Continuing this topic, I want to highlight one more point - dialogue. Dialogue is a conversation between two or more people. In my opinion, dialogue is EVERYTHING in a relationship. Without it, any relationship can collapse (again, this is my opinion). The success of dialogue lies in being understood when I speak and vice versa. Unfortunately, men and women often put different meanings into their words. This fact can cause a lot of quarrels and a feeling of misunderstanding. Most popular phrases:1. “I need to talk to you” is a classic phrase from a woman. A phrase for just about anything. With this phrase, the woman wants to emphasize the importance of the event itself. A man may think that he will be pressed, loaded, reprimanded, etc. The same phrase can be said differently (replacement): “I want to tell you something,” “I need your advice,” “I can’t find a solution.” in one situation, help me, please,” “Listen to me, please,” etc. 2. “You don’t love me, you don’t value me, you don’t value me at all” A woman lacks attention, care and she wants to be dissuaded of this, she is looking for support. To enhance the dramatic effect. She doesn't feel beautiful, desirable, and seeks approval. A man may experience bewilderment and indignation, because he loves her, married her for the same reason, he does a lot for her, again out of love for her, but she doesn’t see it... Replacement: “Hug me,” “ I need your support”, “Sit with me”, “Kiss me”, “Let’s do something together” i.e. talk about your need. 3. “You never give me anything, you never help me, you always do this.” With this phrase, a woman may be trying to show that she is tired and needs help. The words “Never” and “Always” are used in this case to enhance the dramatic effect. A man takes these words literally, i.e. “Never” means “Never”. Naturally, a man will react to such a woman’s phrase with strong indignation, resentment or anger, because he remembers perfectly everything that he did for his woman. Replacement: “Help me”, “Please bring it to me”, “I’m tired, I need your help, please do it,” “I asked you 3 times, but you didn’t do it, I was offended by you,” i.e. We speak directly about our needs. 4. The woman does not say anything and is offended or “Everything is fine,” “nothing is happening,” etc. Thus, the woman wants to force the man to think about his behavior, why he offended her. At the same time, the man may not even know how exactly he offended his woman, so with this behavior, the man may experience anger, because there is a problem, but he cannot solve it. Replacement: Tell the man why you plan to be offended by him. “I’m not pleased...”, “Spare me from this tone, these words.” 5. “But my friend’s husband took her somewhere,” “There are normal men...” - comparing her husband with others With these phrases, a woman hopes to “motivate” her husband for further achievements (a useless exercise). If a man is not motivated, then a woman should think about why in her society a man is not motivated (conditions), three options: 1) you do what something for yourself; 2) you don’t thank; 3) you don’t need. When a man is compared to someone, he feels betrayed, i.e. his woman looks at another man, does research, while her man is not his number one for her. Replacement: Understand what exactly you want, it doesn’t matter what “it” is, and tell the man about it, adding emotions of happiness that you experienced when you had “it” before or when you will have “it”. 6. “I told you so” In this case, the woman wants her man to listen to her, to know that her opinion is important and has value for him. A man can only hear the arrogance and superiority of a woman, and since she has every right, then let her do everything herself..