From the author: Don’t let your soul be lazy! So as not to pound water in a mortar, the Soul must work Day and night, and day and night! Nikolai Zabolotsky There is a fairly simple way to learn new things about yourself. Try to think for a minute and answer yourself the question of what irritates you most in the world, people, life. What causes you to experience unpleasant feelings? What qualities of people do you judge? What do you not accept for yourself? Regarding what do you often repeat: “I will never do that. It's not about me. This won’t happen to me.” By answering these questions, you will discover your zone of proximal development. It is these qualities that you displace from your consciousness and life. These are your most necessary resources for a given period of time. For example, one of my friends was very indignant that his friends were saving a lot. They count every penny, choose cheaper products, and keep records of income and expenses. “How is this possible! It is not comfortable. It’s limiting,” he said. At the same time, he himself had problems with money and constantly lived on credit. When we began to investigate this problem, we found out that he treated money very freely. When he received funds, he immediately spent them, and then worried that he did not have enough income to feel confident. His behavior clearly lacked a thrifty attitude towards money. And this is exactly what the world in the person of his friends signaled to him. It is important to understand here that he did not need to save as much as his friends. He simply needed to learn to treat money more carefully, respectfully, with love and care. After all, this is exactly what money wants, if we consider it as living energy. Very often, the best mirrors and teachers in our lives are the people who surround us every day. These are spouses, work colleagues, children, parents. Every day, with their unbearable, in our opinion, behavior, they try to help us get closer to our true unique essence. In this part of the relationship with spouses, the greatest treasure on the path to oneself. Married couples often come for consultations, where the spouses have a lot of complaints about each other to a friend. They are so absorbed in their experiences that strong emotions obscure the most important thing - feelings of gratitude and love. Women accuse men of low incomes, passivity, and inability to set goals and achieve them. Husbands make complaints against their wives that they want too much, behave too emotionally and stupidly. But! Think about it: maybe it’s time to listen to the earthly manifestations of higher knowledge about becoming more harmonious. Try to face your fears that you see in the manifestations of other people. What will happen to a woman if she stops showing her excessive activity in providing for her family? I dare say that in this case she will return to her passive female role. No, no, dear ladies, no one forbids you to set goals and achieve them, but the focus of attention will then shift inward. Only there will you find the levers for creating a stimulating atmosphere in the family, in which your man will strive to give you the best. What happens to a man if he suddenly shows his true feelings? It will allow you to raise the internal bar of your possible achievements and “turn on” your creative energy. Don't tell me it's bad for men to feel. You were deceived because... feelings are contact with your soul. They, in combination with logic, are the guide to harmony. You just forgot about it. We often unconsciously change roles in order to become someone else's mirror. This is neither bad nor good, it is intended by someone above. After all, the soul must work, otherwise what’s the point of all life. And we can only thank our loved ones, the world and the universe for giving us the opportunity to live brightly, uniquely and excitingly.