From the author: This article was published on 08/31/2012 here: Very often you can hear questions or complaints from young parents that grandmothers asked - asked for grandchildren, and when they (grandchildren ) were born, they (grandmothers) never have free time to “sit with their grandson”. Or if there is, then very little. Dear young ladies, mothers! When you are “led” by such requests from your dads and moms, when your motivation for conceiving is only your parents’ manipulation of you, be sure that these requests (in most cases) are no more than a request for a new status. Also if you look around and see that all your parents’ friends have already acquired grandchildren, then be sure that your baby will also be a status request. Of course, grandparents will love their grandchildren very much and take care of them, but raising a baby after all, you will have to! Just remember that if your grandparents help you with “baby sitting”, then do not forget to say “thank you” to them. You should also take into account that some grandmothers ask for payment. Don't be alarmed. It's quite normal. Would you pay for babysitting services? Why should a grandmother sit for “just because”? This topic is quite sensitive, because often grandmothers are ashamed to ask for payment for “sitting with their grandson,” but they cannot refuse, because they seem to be free, and they need help, but in As a result, children and grandchildren sit on their necks, and some grandmothers even begin to raise their grandchildren themselves. Of course, if grandmothers work, then it is much easier to refuse them, but if not? It’s hard to ask a working grandmother to sit with her grandson, because the grandmother will have to quit work, and appears dependence on children. What if the children FORGET to pay their grandmother, citing the fact that they seem to have no money? My personal opinion:! regardless of whether grandmothers work or not, they have already “plowed theirs!!!” (in the sense that they have already raised their children) and they have been given grandchildren to enjoy them, to pamper them, to praise them more than their parents, to walk with them sometimes. But when rest turns into work, when the grandmother already understands that she cannot stand the “whims” of the baby, then gray everyday life begins. “If you ask such a working grandmother to sit” 1. Once a week - 2 hours, I think not a single grandmother will not refuse and will not ask for money for communication with his beloved grandson. If children begin to become impudent, then a conflict arises, which brings both parties to the opportunity to negotiate. And they will have to negotiate, taking into account all the factors: how long to sit, the whole day or..., etc. 2. About weekends. Grandmothers generally need to rest, and not take on such work every day. Have guests arrived? If children have arrived, then these are not guests, but children with grandchildren. Accordingly, children behave as before: they help their parents: men do men’s work, women do women’s work. 3. Up to what age? For now, she will work as a nanny, teacher and teacher. And as soon as the child begins to come running simply to communicate with his grandmother when he needs it, and not when his parents bring him according to their need. Quitting your job to become a nanny is not advisable. There are a sufficient number of nannies who earn their bread from this, and they should have appropriate training. Of course, it's a little more expensive, but grandma will remain loved and unique...4. “The child grows up, gets used to his beloved grandmother, comes home after school... what should the grandmother do?” Of course, it’s a joy when a grandson comes running to chat with his beloved grandmother and eat her pies. 5. “Will your grandson grow up and also ask for money for visiting his grandmother?” If everything is as I wrote, then no one will have to pay anything. Or a mother will pay her son to take pies to his grandmother. I am also interested in hearing the opinion of grandmothers, and not only grandmothers, but also the parents themselves. So go ahead, give birth when you, the parents, really need it,