From the author: Do you remember how you lived as a child? When every day was fraught with many discoveries, interesting games and entertainment? How did any thing that fell into your hands become a toy, be it a pebble, a book or a piece of bread? How interesting was it to study every object in this big world, from distant stars and clouds to the toes of your left foot? 02/21/12 Do you remember how you lived as a child? When every day was fraught with many discoveries, interesting games and entertainment? How did any thing that fell into your hands become a toy, be it a pebble, a book or a piece of bread? How interesting was it to study every subject in this big world, from distant stars and clouds to the toes of the left foot? Remember that wonderful time. How much energy, how much strength! And how sweetly you fell asleep, and what magical dreams you had... Then you lived under the motto: I WANT! What happens when a person begins to grow up? From everywhere he hears the demands of parents, educators, teachers: you must, you must, and now he forgets what he himself wanted... And the demands seem to be reasonable, and we ourselves understand that something needs to be done, but it disappears somewhere , energy disappears, the source from which we previously drew strength dries up. And even a simple task seems overwhelming, you want to give up or scream from powerlessness: I don’t want to! I won’t!!! Why does this happen? From the standpoint of transactional analysis, this can be explained very simply. The Inner Child does not give energy to those actions that he does not want to do. As a rule, the inner Parent demands that these things be done (that is, now you yourself force yourself and demand from yourself, having learned this from your parents and other significant people from your childhood). Every action gives rise to opposition, therefore, “when there is no agreement among our comrades,” and the Parent begins to demand, and the Child resists, we lose energy in this internal struggle. In a war with oneself, as a rule, there are no winners. Result: things stand still, the Parent begins to scold and blame the Child, which causes a feeling of guilt and depression, the mood is at zero or even lower... Do you want to work in such a mood? ? Nope. And a vicious circle closes...What to do? There are several options: seek help from a psychologist and explore the internal conflict that has arisen, find a compromise between “need” and “want”, and learn to live easily and pleasantly; try to solve the problem yourself: change your unloved job, take a vacation and do what you love, learn from to enjoy the simplest actions, to please oneself with some little thing, to put off the matter until the desire arises on its own... to pretend that the problem does not exist. And force yourself further... until such a life makes you want to howl at the moon. You decide! And let your decision be the decision of an Adult!