Dictionaries interpret the feeling of envy as follows: 1). Annoyance about someone else's good or benefit. 2). The desire to have what someone else has. How envy occurs in life: someone around me has what I want, but I don’t have it and I’m envious. Or someone achieves what I would like to achieve, but do not achieve. The potential of envy - indicates our desire (goal), which for some reason we cannot fulfill or which we decided to abandon, although in our souls we did not let go and we still want it. Let's look at this in more detail. A person wants to achieve something and sets a specific goal. Then something interferes with him, stops him. You could say he fails and gets stuck. Does not cancel the goal and does not continue to achieve. This state of affairs is indicated by envy. When someone in the environment achieves the same or similar goal, the envier receives an unconscious reminder of his own, which was not achieved, but from which attention was not removed. Finding himself in this situation, a person experiences mental suffering, and can become involved in a counter-goal: “I haven’t achieved it and I won’t give it to you!” By interfering with and harming another on the same path. I call this inversion. So to speak, a transition to the “dark side of the force”)). Sometimes this can be done by parents, relatives, friends, who, it would seem, should be happy and supportive. But they can't. Because someone else’s success means some kind of their own inferiority, inability: “He could do it, but I couldn’t!” A person in such a state does not understand that this does not solve his problem, but, on the contrary, moves further and further from the goal. Although I could use this feeling to my advantage. How? I'll try to explain. Firstly. You can discover your “abandoned” target. By the way, resources are still being spent on it! As mentioned above, envy will lead to it. Secondly. You can reconsider the relevance of the goal. Perhaps its achievement is no longer necessary or the goal was stereotypical, alien. Then you can complete your goal and regain the resources that were invested there in order to be used for other relevant goals. Thirdly. Envy seems to tell us: “Look! This is possible! The other person has it - this is confirmation!” - talks about what is available. This can gradually come into our lives too. This situation in metaphor is similar to if we were traveling on the ocean and saw an island in the distance. You can be angry that he is far away, or you can be happy: “Earth!” - and make an effort to get closer to it and finally achieve it. Instead of envying, direct this energy towards achieving the goal. The psyche works like this: if we forbid someone something, we forbid ourselves the same; if we allow something for others, we allow ourselves. By rejoicing in someone else's success, by sharing it, we give the go-ahead for it to appear here too - we invite it into our reality. And a person who has achieved success can become our ally or guide. I wish you success in achieving your goals! If this article was useful to you, I will be glad to receive “thank you” marks! If you want to cope with envy or other negative feelings and turn them to your advantage, contact me for advice via messengers +79157692322 and through the form on the website