We know well that prevention is the best means of reducing diseases, and that treating diseases is much more difficult than preventing them. But for some reason this knowledge settles as a dead weight in our minds, without bearing fruit - we prefer to wait until the “roasted rooster pecks”, and then, with all passion and enthusiasm, look for a magical remedy that will help quickly cure a disease that has been brewing for many years . And, not finding it, we adapt to our new state, not understanding that the appearance of the disease indicates that a lot needs to be changed in ourselves, that the situation is already quite advanced, and we need to work much more than with prevention. Compare for yourself:- if you want your child to be healthy, it is enough to wash his feet with cold water every day to start with or put him in a bowl of cold water for a few seconds; do not overwrap and maintain the temperature in the house to 20 degrees. Is this difficult? But how many mothers do this? And how many prefer to deal with the consequences - constant snot, illness, complications, etc.? It’s the same in other areas of life. If a house has a bad foundation, then it needs to be strengthened when the house is still standing, and not when it is already collapsing, dragging those living in it with it. Women who find themselves in a difficult situation very often come to me with a plea for help. Divorce, misunderstanding in the family, problems with parents, unloved work, betrayal of a husband - these are already advanced diseases that could have been prevented and prevented. A wise person learns from the mistakes of others, seeks knowledge, taking care of himself and his family every day. Let's be wise! Let's learn to create relationships, build houses, and not restore everything from ruins. Let's teach this to our children - after all, their tomorrow's happiness and the future of the entire planet depend on you and me. And may the situations you see below be less and less every day. “Hello! We dated a young man for a year, during which time he behaved dishonestly towards me (secretly met with girls - “just girlfriends”, got drunk, insulted me, smoked weed, did not provide moral support when it was absolutely necessary). However, I wanted to be with him. One day I couldn’t stand it and we broke up. And then they made up for a couple of nights. Next comes a quarrel and separation. Later I found out that I was pregnant! He was glad we got married. During pregnancy, he cared extremely little. He left 3 months after the birth of the child. Hanging out with friends. I tried to improve my relationship with him, but he still acts badly. Now he is making repairs in the apartment where we were supposed to move, telling his relatives what he is doing for us. Now the child is 5 months old, and we are 24. What should I do? Nadezhda"I understand how difficult it is to find yourself in such a situation - without support, with a small child in your arms - it seems that the whole world is against you. You need to be very strong to withstand this and not break, and you need to become like that, because now the baby’s life is in your hands! Remember the film “Moscow Doesn’t Believe in Tears” - its main character found herself in the same situation. What helped her survive? Her desire and perseverance, her desire to win and her friends. Rewatch this film, imbue yourself with this spirit - it will help you in your situation. What to do specifically? First. ACCEPT THE SITUATION. This is very important. Events are not created just for us, each of them has a lesson that needs to be learned. Accept what happened to you - perhaps this is your only chance to have a child; Perhaps you need this situation to start looking for True knowledge and working on yourself. Don’t complain about fate - it will only take away the strength that you need so much now, and can have a bad effect on the baby’s health. Second. SEEK SUPPORT and HELP. Don't hesitate to ask for help. To your parents and your boyfriend, to friends, neighbors - you will see that there are a lot of merciful people around. And they will help you cope with difficulties if you seek help, and not.