I would like to devote a little time to philosophy and express my thoughts about Sacrifice and Sacrificial Love. What is the difference between these two concepts and what are the similarities? Why is the theme of Sacrifice or the position of the Victim so condemned, and Sacrificial Love is extolled as the purest energy, as a symbol of obedience and consent? And first, let's give a definition, what is Sacrifice? And this is what Wikipedia gave us: a victim is a person who has suffered or died from something. But we will take only what relates to a person’s personality. And then it turns out that a victim is a subject of society who has suffered from another subject. I’ll run a little ahead and immediately designate it as the position of the Aggressor. And, probably, it’s no longer a secret to anyone that at first the state of the Victim appears with the words: “Oh, how bad I feel.” ! Life is not nice to me and in general, the weather is not the same!” And then the Aggressor appears with the words: “Well, come here Dear, now I’ll kick you and torture you and then everything will be OK!” That's how they met! The most interesting thing is that this topic has been discussed in modern society for quite a long time, but nevertheless, every day, without realizing it, we fall into the state of Victim and beckon, attract potential aggressors to ourselves, and then we also take offense at them, like: “I asked for attention and care or just understanding, but he hit me in the teeth, and in the neck...” Yes, no matter what you say, it’s also painful to be a Victim. You can, of course, devote time and find the roots of the Sacrificial State, but there are quite a lot of them, this is a lack of strength or resources of a person, it can also be upbringing based on a sense of guilt, it can also be the presence of aggressors in the Family of this very Victim. There are many reasons and in each case it is different for everyone. The state of Sacrifice is expressed in the fact that we feel small, weak and helpless, thereby causing and encouraging the environment to take care of us! But not everyone is able to take on such responsibility and become a Shoulder, Crutch or Parent for us! And then it is easier for the Environment to reject, to exclude the Victim from our own space, than to take on this responsibility for the bad luck of a colleague... But what happens when we sacrifice not ourselves, but our Love??? And why is Sacrificial Love welcomed or at least accepted by Society? The fact is that when we sacrifice our feelings or our condition, we do it deliberately or consciously, i.e. we are aware of why we are doing this or in the name of what we are doing this... And in this state we maintain our Adult position, we seem to give a part of ourselves in the name of something greater. For example, we renounce Love for a person, in the name of his integrity, security or in the name of preserving his values ​​or his Family. We save ourselves and we save him or her. We show respect and love for that person, not selfishness and self-interest. In sacrificial love, we maintain relationships in the “Adult – Adult” position, and in the case of a sacrifice, we build relationships “Child – Adult”. Yes, in Sacrificial Love we also lose a lot of energy, but it is compensated by the global meaning for which we did this , for the sake of the Greater, we sacrifice the Lesser! As in systemic family therapy, one of the basic laws is the law of Integrity, which states: In the name of preserving the Family, we have to sacrifice the weakest! And of course this is Painful and not pleasant, but it helps to preserve Dignity and Strength. Thus, we have determined that the basis of the Victim position is a childish position with an attitude of attracting attention to oneself, and in the position of Sacrificial Love there is an adult position with an attitude of preservation integrity of both yourself and your environment. And of course, it is more comfortable for society to consist of representatives of adults than of representatives of children’s positions, although, as they say “There is no smoke without fire,” there will be no Adults without Children, just as Sacrificial Love will not arise without Victims! I think this is a wonderful ending to such contradictory thoughts!