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Three important components that will help reduce the degree of tension between your family and overprotective parents. Give up guardianship. This is a difficult stage that can reveal problems of trust and independence within a young family. You need to talk openly with your parents about the fact that participation is too intrusive. Child-parent relationships very often deteriorate due to the fact that family members avoid open and honest conversations. And this is necessary to resolve many latent conflicts and finally separate. Before the conversation, think about what kind of relationship you would like to build with your parents: stay in touch, visit each other regularly, or completely move away, distance yourself. Suggest your own version of the development of events during the conversation. Don’t be afraid to talk about it honestly: explain that you are uncomfortable with constant interference in your personal life, remind your parents that you are already an adult and an independent person. Your parents may need time to readjust. Stand your ground and give the new way of life time to take root in your families. Stop complaining to your parents about your partner. Conflicts and disagreements occur in all families; this cannot be avoided. And after quarrels, I really want to talk to someone, share my emotions. But telling your parents about this, in all its colors and details, is not always a constructive idea. Yes, you want someone to understand you and be on your side. But negative emotions will subside within a few hours, and after a couple of days you will finally make peace with your loved one. But your parents’ opinion about your union may change greatly. Surely they want only the best for you and therefore worry about your happiness and the happiness of your children. If you feel that your parents are going too far and are taking too much part in your family life, think about whether this is a consequence of your complaints about your partner? And their excessive involvement is an attempt to protect you, to help you. The same applies to his parents. Make an agreement with your loved one: no complaints about each other to your parents if the conflict is minor. It is important for you to learn to cope on your own. And it’s better to be interested in the experience of your parents, how they coped with difficult life situations and what helped them. And to deal with uncomfortable and difficult feelings, use the support of a psychologist. Be at one with your partner. The active participation of the spouses' parents in the life of the family tests the relationship for closeness, how much you are at one with your partner. Building strong family relationships in a couple largely depends on mutual support and trust in each other. Often, the interference of mom and dad in the personal life of an adult child destroys a marriage. The child-parent conflict will develop into a family conflict. Talk to your loved one about the current situation. Explain your parents' motives, and also express your point of view on the problem. Remember that you and your partner are a family, which means you need to solve everything together, supporting each other. Remember that loving your parents is not the same as obeying their demands. You are already an adult who has his own family. And you, of course, can ask your parents for advice if you really need it. Otherwise, you have every right to refuse anyone’s interference in your personal life. Try to talk to each other more often and do not be afraid of uncomfortable topics for discussion with your parents. With respect to you, psychologist Olga Bychkova!