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Ending therapy can have different reasons and take different forms. And of course, the client has every right to end therapy at any time. And any reason that prompts him to do this is worthy of respect. But usually, when we are still only at the very beginning of the journey of working together, I ask the client not to “disappear suddenly in the fog,” but to communicate his decision more or less in advance, so that we could carry out work upon completion of therapy. In fact, this stage is no less important than the initial stage - the stage of establishing contact. The final session (or sessions, there may even be not one, but several) can take place very differently, it depends on the direction in which you are working psychologist, on the characteristics of this particular client, the process that unfolded. Very often at these meetings it is useful to remember the path traveled together, its main “milestones”, the results achieved. It is important to think about how the new experiences gained in therapy can be used in later life. It can be very useful to create a kind of “psychological safety plan”: discuss how the client will cope with potentially difficult situations in the future, how he can take care of himself and his emotional well-being when faced with what is likely to act as triggers. Very often, feelings at the end of therapy are ambivalent: on the one hand, there is already a feeling of achieved stability and you really want to “spread your wings” and go on a “solo voyage”, and on the other hand, there is anxiety that the bad state may return, in general wondering “how am I going to cope on my own now”, sadness about the upcoming separation. And you can and should talk about these feelings and live them. And it is important to discuss practical points: that the completion of permanent therapy does not mean the inability to come to one-time, supportive meetings if the need arises; about what “bells” a person can notice in time that, perhaps, help is needed again, about the fact that “kickbacks” are possible, but there is already a whole arsenal of ways to cope with these kickbacks and help oneself... Final A session is also an opportunity to express those thoughts and feelings that arose during the work process, but remained “outside the brackets.” These feelings can be different: gratitude, warmth, and, for example, resentment, anger, regret. The end of therapy is a separation, the end of a relationship. In fact, we usually don’t have much experience of good breakups in our lives. And just such a good breakup is another important and useful experience that can be experienced in therapy.