Why do people go to a psychologist? Different after different. Conventionally, they can be divided into several groups: 1. People who want to change themselves. They are ready to spend some effort, time and money to make their life a little better and more interesting. Yes, this is something that you can’t touch, like a new car, but you can feel it. These people often learn the benefits of work, because they are tuned in to the work ahead, ready for not always pleasant discoveries, ready to change, and most importantly, ready to take responsibility for what happens to them.2. People who want to change others. Something is wrong in their relationship and others are to blame for this: husband/sister/mother/boss/work colleague, etc. They come with a question: how to teach/explain/force/influence him/her, etc. It often becomes a discovery for them that they themselves contribute to relationships with others, that it is impossible to change another person without his desire, and that changing another person and changing a relationship are DIFFERENT. And further work is built or not built depending on their willingness to accept these facts.3. People wanting a prescription. Simply put, advice that will change their life overnight. Such people, as a rule, first idealize a psychologist as a person who has universal answers to all questions and life difficulties, and then they themselves destroy the pedestal on which the specialist has been elevated, discussing his incompetence and lack of life experience to solve such problems. More on this tomorrow.4. And there is also an interesting category of people who come to a psychologist to prove that no one can help them. As a rule, they are pushed to contact a specialist by relatives, friends or acquaintances. A person who internally considers the problem unsolvable simply cannot benefit from working with a specialist. That’s why I don’t advise you to “send” your relatives to a psychologist. And to calls like “my wife needs a psychologist, could you help?” I answer, “Let your wife call herself. Or you can come.” Of course, this division is very arbitrary, but it is proportional to the opportunities to benefit from working with a psychologist. You can get the maximum benefit if asking for help is your decision, and also if you remember that a psychologist is not a magician, but a person like you, only with certain knowledge with which he can be useful to you, that To get results you need time and, possibly, several meetings, as well as your desire and willingness to endure the joy and pain that accompany any change. All this is the contribution that makes the work with a psychologist joint, in contrast to the work of a plumber who came and fixed everything himself. The choice is yours. Good luck.