From the author: The topic is inspired by a consultation. For every man, the very first, most significant woman in his life is his mother. Before puberty, the boy is very strongly attached to his mother, after which the connection weakens (normally) and by the age of 21 it should completely break. For this, with the onset of puberty, it is important for the father to take a significant place in his son’s life. It is he who helps the son eventually divorce his mother, showing the son that he is the worthy husband of his wife and his mother. The son and father even compete unconsciously for the woman who is both wife and mother. The result of the competition is the ousting of the son from the family. Let me remind you that a family is always a husband and wife, children are part of the family. Breaking the connection, repression may sound somewhat unpleasant, but, in fact, they are not filled with any negativity. Growing up is a complete separation from parents at all levels. At the same time, it presupposes an adult respectful attitude towards one’s parents, and, if necessary, includes care and support, and most importantly, the opportunity to create one’s own full-fledged family. This is the norm, which, alas, is often becoming a rarity in our time. More often you can see distorted options. The topic of the article is actually dedicated to them. It happens that the mother herself is not an adult, not a mature person, which accordingly disrupts the currents of love in her, instead filling her with fears, distrust of her husband and the world around her. Therefore, it is difficult for her to trust her husband, the father of their common son. And even more so to entrust him to a strange woman who wanted to become her son’s wife. Such a mother will not give her son the right to choose, freedom, and will decide everything for him. She is his MOTHER and knows what will be best for her son, because she loves her little blood so much. She will deprive him of the chance to grow up, keeping him in the status of “mama’s boy” in order to be in demand and needed, even for him. Her son will at most be capable of playing the role of a lover, but not a husband. For his own mother had already chosen him to play the role of her husband, displacing his father and real husband. The sad thing is that, in order to remain his mother’s ward or her “psychological husband”, as immature as herself, as an adult, the son will have to drink. Only while on a binge will he be able to fulfill his mother’s instructions - “don’t grow up.” It also happens. Mom raises her son alone, proudly declaring to everyone that she has a family. Again, this is the position of an immature woman, with a lack of love energy. For any child, the mother is his God, the child has no filters of protection from the mother, he completely trusts the mother. An immature mother, instead of filling the child with the energy of love and giving him support, begins to pump energy from the child and receives support from him. This situation is really dangerous, because the child lives in a lack of vital energy, there is a high chance of somatization and deterioration of health. When a child is ill, the “mother” comes on and feels needed and in demand. The child recovers, the mother is upset and receives repayment of energy debts from him. This is the kind of symbiosis that, if destroyed, could lead to life, usually my mother’s. That’s why she will keep her grown-up son close by with her weakness, depriving her of the chance to create her own family and spend energy on it. It turns out to be a “sterile symbiotic family” of mother and son. It also happens. Weak women grow up to have strong sons who, from childhood, play the role of “husband” for their mother. Such sons take care of their mother and do men's (and women's) work around the house. They listen, understand, sympathize, protect their mother as her husband. The role of the mother, protector and comforter is erased, depriving the child of the opportunity to receive love from her, accustoming him to the idea that his mother has already done everything for him - she gave birth, and now he is now in an unpaid debt of care for her. Often the image of the mother is idealized to the point of disgrace. Such a son grows up to be a deeply married man, in fact he does not need a second family, sex can always be obtained on the side. Often such men are quite successful in social realization; this type is called “mother’s son”!